Is dissociative identity thing a symptom of BPD or is it its own separate disorder?
I’ve heard that it can result from a poor sense of self and who they are.
They don’t have a core personality of their own so they use different ones for different situations.
I think I’ve read that somewhere about pwBPD.
Hey Gutt,
It may be "comorbid", ... when a person has more than one 'pd', ...
I think most of the disorders, not all, but most (imo) stem from early abuse (childhood), ... so the poor sense of self, or lack of self esteem is a result of earlier abuse, ... so right back to the 'wounded inner child' thing right.
Why do people have low to zero self esteem?, ... think if you were raised (feral) by an abusive, alcoholic father, and even a mother (both), ... maybe you got the $hit beat out of you everyday, no food, told your were stupid, lazy, worthless, ... well there you go, now you got no self esteem, and also probably a good (bad) case of CPTSD too, ... when you were a kid, you did whatever you could do to survive, ... if alcoholic father said, "I wish you were a girl", or ... "I wish you were more like your older brother" (whom may be dead), ... that forces the kid to try to be what the abusive father wanted, iot survive, stop the beatings, maybe get to eat some food, ... the poor kid is always trying to "please" the monster father, or mother, or the mother "next in line" boyfriend, ...
but he never will (malignant narcissist sociopathic abuser ?), ... this stuff is deep man, ... this person whom was abused, had a "bad program" downloaded into their personality, and that kid hangs onto it into adult life, and uses the program to "survive" stresses now, in their adult life.
The person whom was abused, and is now a person with bpd/npd, ...
it isn't their fault, that's the catch-22, ... that's who they are, and they are not likely to ever change, only extreme ability to seek personal introspection, due to a life (come to Jesus) moment may trigger "change seeking", ... but most never will.
And now, we are in a relationship/marriage with this person, ... and when the times get hard, and they dysregulate,
we actually become their abuser, to them, .. because they are in that bad program survival mode again, ... in their minds, ... and that's how they may try to cope, deal with any confrontation, or else other negativity, either perceived, or real (threat?), ... with us.
That is the 'crux', ... so what do we do, ... that is the million dollar question man.
I been married two times now, still in marriage #2, ... my first wife was a CSA victim, and it (that) childhood trauma (she is 55 now), to this very day is what she lives, how she reacts to any life issues, conflicts, ... the trauma that she suffered as a little girl, that little girl is still running the show.
Wife #2, ... she is an extremely angry person, ... it is whom she is, anger is her
defensive mechanism, ... this is her "go to emotion", ... something happened to her too, ... I have been told little bits and pieces over the years, ... by her (when she was drinking), as well her FOO (slips of information), ... #2 will be 56 this year, ... and slowly, and painfully, she is pushing everyone who "loves" her away, ...
Anyways, ... 'DID' is a diagnoses (DSMV) as far as I know, ... as is BPD, & NPD (cluster B).
Like the "Beth" character on Yellowstone, uses alcohol to "get through her day", ... she is a classic example imho, ... a very angry person, "don't ever get on Beth's bad side",...wow... and WOW again, ... a great portrayal of a disordered person right there.
'Core Personality'
*self esteem*
*belief system*
*life experiences*
*foundational core (childhood)*
How many times we hear, "they are MT inside", ... "they are like a bucket with a hole in the bottom", ... "they have no sense of self", ...
*splitting*
*pushing away*
*anger always*
*fear of abandonment*
*black and white thinking*
*risky behaviors*
...on and on and on...
~Red
