The games they play

[NarcsEverywhere]

So I tried my best to do stuff for my Dad for Father's Day and his birthday, but every time I didn't spend time with him on those days he'd act pitiful, it worked, I became so codependent. I tried, and I put some heart into it, and I made a genuine effort, but I wasn't feeling well. Anyways, lately he just sits around depressed, and no matter what I say he does nothing about it. I think he probably plots against me too, during these times. He does nothing proactive for the pets most of the time. I pretty much am fed up. I told him if he wants a relationship with me, he has to make a genuine effort and have good intentions, he's failed at that. I don't know what the consequence is, but I am definitely pulling back.

I'm a sucker for the pity card, because I actually care about peoples suffering, I guess because I've suffered so much. It's why I fell into getting involved with the wrong people and got hurt so bad. I asserted myself and basically said I'm fed up and he's gonna have to do more. I actually started feeling helpless myself, by "letting him do it on his own".

On a side note, the neighbors were playing their games recently, the neighbor lady who hurt all those cats, she became the saint of cats and was doing random stuff for cats and telling my Dad, which I thought was good, but still below a reasonable bar to me, since she let her cat breed for a 3-4th time, and then had to give the kittens to another person who had a mother cat.

Her boyfriend who I said could park on the back fence was playing his games and parking his car in front of my house, pretty sure to dominate me. I gave a polite letter to them that said basically I want him to not do that, and I'm glad that she was helping cats more and was concerned for her cat who came to my house, since she was dirty.

I did find it funny before, when he tried to dominate me, and she acted like the patron saint of cats, but now I realize I kind of feel isolated by how these people play their games, and then ghost me when I don't fall for them.

Honestly this is hard, just wanted to vent I guess, people be crazy. I need to connect with people that are healthier than this and focus on these unhealthy people. And of course myself and my pets more, ugh. I really gotta watch out for these manipulations, easy to let your guard down for a bit, and pay a cost for it.

Edit: Well I held him accountable, basically said if he wants me to work with him on a personal level, he's gonna have to write an apology, and own up to what he did, and give me a plan on what he's gonna do in our relationship and in this house, or I'm gonna work with him like it's a job (greyrocking). I feel empowered, but also frustrated, gonna let it go and focus on other things.