Communication_ Favorite Person

[Dark_Knight]

I'm not sure where to start but I am excited that I found this site.
I have researched and tried to learn as much as I can about BPD to help improve my relationship with my partner.

I feel like even though I still struggle. If I'm not allowed to talk about certain things please let me know.

Right now I feel like I am struggling with my partner and when she gets favorite people other than me.
I feel discarded because she will focus mostly on them. Before we knew she had it we were having issues.

She would meet people online and talk to them which was fine but it got to the point where she would always be on her phone.

Even when I would say I wanted to spend time with her.
Right now however I'm not sure who has her attention as she has been acting like she doesn't really care to be around me or
even talk to me. By turning on music in the car when I am talking, she used to talk to me on her lunches and she hasn't now for the past week. I have tried to let her know I feel hurt and have felt unloved for the past week but she just gets angry at me.
I'm not sure what to do. I was hoping some one who has dealt with their partner having BPD who has multiple favorite persons
can share their experience and offer advice. 

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