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[Magicturtle]

I’m in a relationship (26 years), married 19 to a man with a spinal cord injury. I have a disabled daughter who is 28 and we have 2 children. Our relationship has been steadily going downhill for several years- he threatens, lashes out, has rages over such minor things, and has been abusive to me in the past. Someone recently gave me the book- stop walking on eggshells, and I truly feel like that book has described my family. I am to the point where it’s not healthy for me to be here, much less my children. I don’t want to leave, or our relationship to be over. But he insists that everything is my fault and unless I do as he says, then he sees divorce in our future. He has already demanded to keep his money separate and any extra money I have after paying monthly expenses and food, gas, etc. I should give him the extra to “get it out of my hands” so I don’t spend it. It’s getting to the point that my 10 year old had a bag packed in case we needed to leave because her dad was so mad. What can I do to help him, and all of us??

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