I think he’ is splitting

[RPR24]

My husband (undiagnosed) came home from work and asked if I had worked today. I said no so he got up and emptied the dishwasher without saying a word. I knew straight away he was pissed off. If he had bothered to ask me I would have told him I had already emptied the dishwasher once today and put it on again.
Then he went and had a nap without saying a word.  Dinner arrived (delivery) and he suggests a movie while we eat.
My son comes in and H says to him ‘I’m f@cking asking you where you want to sit and you’re just ignoring me!’
Then goes into his study, his dinner is still sitting on the table.
I put washing on the line then came in to have a shower. My daughter asks where dad is. I have no idea. He’s obviously taken off somewhere. I don’t even care. I’m over it. So freaking over it. Daughter asked me why dad acts like this? I said I don’t know but she is safe because I am here.
Is he splitting? I’m tired of it, so tired of it.

[kells76]

Hi RPR24;

I think anyone would be tired of years of disordered behavior in the family. It's no wonder you're exhausted and over it.

When your H gets like that, how do you take care of yourself? Do the kids have somewhere to go (friends' houses, library, park, coffee shop) where they can get a break, too?

[RPR24]

Thanks for your reply. I will answer later but I just wanted to ask something because I am freaked out.
Last night I woke up to him in the bathroom talking to himself. He was saying ‘PLEASE READing’ over and over again. And then ‘die, die, die!’ Is this part of the splitting? I’m scared.

[kells76]

Has that ever happened before?

While I'm not sure whether it's splitting behavior or not, it's concerning.

Did it sound like it was directed at a specific person, or more a general expression of distress?

[RPR24]

Once before, and when I went into the bathroom to ask him if he was ok he just said sorry and went back to his study.

I think it was directed at himself but can’t be sure.