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I think he’ is splitting
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My husband (undiagnosed) came home from work and asked if I had worked today. I said no so he got up and emptied the dishwasher without saying a word. I knew straight away he was pissed off. If he had bothered to ask me I would have told him I had already emptied the dishwasher once today and put it on again.
Then he went and had a nap without saying a word. Dinner arrived (delivery) and he suggests a movie while we eat.
My son comes in and H says to him ‘I’m f@cking asking you where you want to sit and you’re just ignoring me!’
Then goes into his study, his dinner is still sitting on the table.
I put washing on the line then came in to have a shower. My daughter asks where dad is. I have no idea. He’s obviously taken off somewhere. I don’t even care. I’m over it. So freaking over it. Daughter asked me why dad acts like this? I said I don’t know but she is safe because I am here.
Is he splitting? I’m tired of it, so tired of it.
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Hi RPR24;
I think anyone would be tired of years of disordered behavior in the family. It's no wonder you're exhausted and over it.
When your H gets like that, how do you take care of yourself? Do the kids have somewhere to go (friends' houses, library, park, coffee shop) where they can get a break, too?
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Thanks for your reply. I will answer later but I just wanted to ask something because I am freaked out.
Last night I woke up to him in the bathroom talking to himself. He was saying ‘
PLEASE READ
ing’ over and over again. And then ‘die, die, die!’ Is this part of the splitting? I’m scared.
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Has that ever happened before?
While I'm not sure whether it's splitting behavior or not, it's concerning.
Did it sound like it was directed at a specific person, or more a general expression of distress?
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Once before, and when I went into the bathroom to ask him if he was ok he just said sorry and went back to his study.
I think it was directed at himself but can’t be sure.
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