Why is it so easy for them to move on

[defusion5]

My uBPD partner with whom I live apart ended the rship via email last night.  We had planned to go camping this weekend.

Cut a long story short, since her email, she has no contacted me. I am finding terribly hard not to.  I want answers as to why she just did it.  Sure, we've been going through tough times, each of us, and the rship but she is totally NC.  After 3.5 years it seems wrong.  She has broken up from me time before, even last Sunday she mentioned it, then we discussed some of our issues, her issues, mine and it seems ok.  Yes, we had some tension during the week via the phone but for her to be so strong with no contacting me, or not answering her phone or my email, after 3.5 yrs just seems weird... .   Maybe she's angry... . any thoughts?

cheers

defusion

[paperlung]

Here are some threads related to your question. I hope they help you.

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=136328.0

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=185180.0

[Hurt llama]

They have to be good at it... .   they do it all the time