a day with the ex BPD g/f

[simplyasiam]

she left ten months ago after six years together, her BPD seemed to be gone. she was strong out going, full of life.

I was crushed how could she feel so good and just walk away from our life and start dating a kid that works in fast food?

I had never seen her so high so wild. I couldn't help but wonder if and when she has a crash will it go as low as this high is going?

I never really lost contact with her for more than a month and two months ago we started dating again.

the dating has been hell. she swings from mood to mood three or four times a day.

she seem to be lost at times she drinks every day sleeps 12 to 18 hours a day.

we had lunch today. driving there she when into a panic I had to pull over out of fear she would jump out of the car.

during lunch she didn't seem to be able to find the words she was looking to express herself she only speaks in a very low tone.

she had more panic again on the drive home hanging out the window yelling for me to stop.

I never dreamed she would fall so low. she is someone I don't know.

many times Ive seen it asked here, are they better after us, today really answered that for me.

I feel sorry for her but I cant do a thing I can only watch and go on with my life.

[Waifed]

Wow. I wonder if her behavior is mirroring of her new partner. Sad.

[Mutt]

I feel sorry for her but I cant do a thing I can only watch and go on with my life.

That sounds tough simplyasiam. It sounds like you are doing the right thing. Be strong.

[ucmeicu2]

she left ten months ago after six years together, her BPD seemed to be gone. she was strong out going, full of life.

I was crushed how could she feel so good and just walk away from our life and start dating a kid that works in fast food?  I had never seen her so high so wild. <cut>

I never really lost contact with her for more than a month and two months ago we started dating again.

the dating has been hell. she swings from mood to mood three or four times a day.

she seem to be lost at times she drinks every day sleeps 12 to 18 hours a day.  we had lunch today. driving there she when into a panic I had to pull over out of fear she would jump out of the car.   during lunch she didn't seem to be able to find the words she was looking to express herself she only speaks in a very low tone.  she had more panic again on the drive home hanging out the window yelling for me to stop.

I never dreamed she would fall so low. she is someone I don't know. <cut> I feel sorry for her but I cant do a thing I can only watch and go on with my life.

simplyasiam, sounds like a very painful situation.

was she falling apart like this during the last 10 months when you were keeping in touch w/her after she left you?

was she falling apart like this when you first started dating her again two months ago?

or has she only been falling apart since you started dating again?

you say there's nothing you can do but watch, and go on w/your life... .  does that mean you are still dating or did you break it off?

do you think you (being close to you again) is triggering her?

[simplyasiam]

hello ucmeicu2

I was with for six years this month is the start of the seventh year. the whole time we were together she was very up and down but the highs or lows never lasted very long.

jan of this year she was kick out of the mental health program here and all her meds were taken away, because she had abusing her Xanax. she went two weeks with any meds before we could get her back into the doc and back on meds.

the time off the meds changed her, she became totally manic. it was aug before she crashed and shes been getting worse every few week. falling apart a couple times a week calling me begging for help asking why does she leave me?

when we  started dating again she came under great pressure from her best friend( my brothers xwife) to not be with me again. the man she dated over the summer also puts pressure on her to give him a chance again. the outside pressure puts her in a confused almost child like state.

I don't seem to trigger any bad reactions, when we are together shes seems to be doing well. she has a lot of mood swings but ive learned how to deal with them over the years. the ppl the are caring for her now have no clue what to do during these times. she breaks down crying and they try to get her to talk to them open up and let it out( big mistake) when she like the most you can do is tell her your there when she ready and set with her.

it took me years to learn how to deal/help her during the bad times and I started out dealing with a women the was a lot more stable. the ppl in her life now are working with someone that cant even start to help herself or tell them how to help


yes waif I do think the way shes acting is some what mirroring the new guy. I told know but I have been in the room when shes speaking to him on the phone. its ez to tell hes not stable get upset very ez. I know a fact he has two protection orders against him and when she not with him he stocks her. why on earth she left him back in her life ill never know