Was This Meant For Me ?

[Willingtolearn]

Since my exBPD girlfriend and i finished our relationship a few years ago, i have been staying with my sister and her husband.

My sister and my exBPDgf actually got on quite well together and became friends. Today my sister received a Christmas Card from my exBPDgf.   She wrote in the card  "  I would love to meet up with your for a coffee, but i have lost your telephone number"  She then wrote her phone number on the card and asked my sister to contact her if she wanted to meet up with her.

When my exBPDgf and i parted i told her i had deleted her phone number in my final text to her.    My question is  "  Did my exBPDgf write her phone number on the Christmas Card for my sisters benefit or for mine ?  "

[Tmwmf]

Well... .if my ex is anything to go by there's always an olive branch... .so you now have access to her phone and she of course has complete denyability if you were to contact her.

[myself]

In those few years, has she been contacting you?

Maybe she's just trying to reconnect with your sister.

A less complicated 'recycle' than a lover would be.

[Splitblack4good]

I'd say that was for your benefit ! Your ex knows that your sister will mention to you that she has a card from her and her number inside sent her a text and find out ? If you want to of course ?

[Willingtolearn]

I had the belief that pwBPD had very few friends.  The friends they did have they always kept their  contact details, unless they had been painted black of course.

[Rise]

What would happen if this were a covert attempt to get in contact with you? What would be different if it really is her just reaching out to your sister?

[antelope]

remember: these people are fickle and their emotions change on a whim... .

she might have written the card 7 days ago when she was feeling lonely and missed having your sis as a friend, and debated sending it... .

then 3 days ago when she sent the card, she was hoping you might open it and peek at her number, b/c she was missing you... .

now, she's over at the new guy's house, completely oblivious to both of you b/c she's getting the attention she was craving... .

^^what I'm saying is don't overanalyze their actions... .they're about as logical and rational as their words