No contact?

[TimApril]

New to the boards and was wondering if someone could explain the no contact thing to me.

Someone suggested I go with NC.

Do not contact the person with BPD? Let them come to you and apologize?

Just looking for more of an explanation of the no contact rule.

[rotiroti]

This is how I use NO contact: it's been a powerful tool for me to leave by BPDex completely behind. I personally don't believe it should be used to lure a BPD back. If you want to set boundaries, you should look into medium chill or low contact, and there's lots of info on the L1/L2 section of the forums.

Going back to N/C... I almost slipped once because she called from an unknown number. Seriously, they will try every trick to get you back:


As the name says, absolutely no contact via any media. Period. no exceptions.

No texts

No social media (fb, instagram, viber etc),

No calls,

No face to face time.

Can't help yourself? Block him/her



Feel the freedom set in!

Here's a useful page: https://outofthefog.net/CommonNonBehaviors/NoContact.html

[TimApril]

I am looking to set boundaries in a relationship with a BPD woman... .is NC the only way?

[rotiroti]

I am looking to set boundaries in a relationship with a BPD woman... .is NC the only way?

I understand, you should head on over to "Improving a Relationship with a Borderline Partner" https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=6.0

and check out the lessons and take them to heart. Best o' luck