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Family Law, Divorce and Custody board. Please visit there and introduce yourself. Nice to hear of a father who has managed to survive the court process, even if not yet reaching a final decree.
Many of our members, both fathers and mothers, have had long divorce processes. One to two years is the norm, a few even longer. Mine was nearly two years, she had a very favorable temp order and delayed as much as she could. On Trial Day I was surprised when at least she was willing to settle on (for me) less unfair terms.
We had separated the week I called 911 to report "family dispute", that was all, she discovered me on the phone, grabbed the handset and hung up. Technically, blocking me from calling an emergency line possibly ought to have been some level of obstruction against the law, not sure about my state on that. The police were initially favoring her despite my preschooler desperately clinging to me. He 'saved' me that day, when they asked me to hand him over to his mother and "step away" he shrieked and clung even tighter. The officer just ponder for a long moment, said "work it out" and both officers left. She afterward bragged they gave her a DV handbook. Once I had downloaded my recording of the incident, an officer took my report and the recording and she was arrested for Threat of DV. At the trial months later she admitted it was her making death threats but the judge ruled that case law modified the written law. He said without evidence that she had a weapon in her hands that her threats weren't "imminent" and ruled Not Guilty. Strangely, she never made a claim about DV until years later, when I went back to court to obtain custody, all her allegations were of child abuse, and worse of course. She just had to make me look worse than her, eventually it backfired but it took years.
