Yes, I get caught in this trap. Why? If I walk away he follows yelling that I think I am perfect or that I don't have the guts to face up to my own problems. If I say nothing he takes it as agreement and it comes back over and over to haunt me. If I fight back I am once again in the trap. I hav yet to figure out how to relate well when he is wanting to argue. Nothing seems to work.
This is the exact scenario with my husband. How do we resolve this? It’s like a lose lose situation. How do I get him to calm down? Especially when his negative emotions are all directed towards me ( primarily for irrational reasons.)