New and happy to be free of a bad relationship

[peacebaby]

A few months ago I stopped pretending things were going to get better with my borderline Significant Other and we split up.

Most of the time I'm doing ok but sometimes I get really sad about the reasons I was in such a lame relationship and I'm not nice to myself.

I'm here to learn to be nicer to myself and to move into the next part of my life.

I hope that's a good enough intro.

[clljhns]

Hi peacebaby,

Glad you are here! Many here are going through or have gone through what you have and can offer support and an ear.

Please visit the board L3 Leaving: Detaching from the Wounds of a failed BPD Relationship. Check out the articles on this board, particularly Surviving a Break-up when your Partner has BPD. I invite you to post here so that others can hear your story and offer support.

I'm here to learn to be nicer to myself and to move into the next part of my life.

Can you tell me little more about this?

Like you handle, by the way!

Peace and blessings.  

[NorthernGirl]

Hello peacebaby and I'll join clljhns in welcoming you.  

I'm sorry you are still sad but like clljhns, I'm glad you found our site as many here have a familiar story to yours.

Was your SO diagnosed with borderline? What are the behaviors you found the most difficult to deal with?

When you head to the Leaving: Disengaging from a Partner with BPD discussion board, you'll find some resources along the top that will help.

Please tell us more and keep posting. We'll help you on your journey to keep moving forward.

[hergestridge]

A few months ago I stopped pretending things were going to get better with my borderline Significant Other and we split up.

Most of the time I'm doing ok but sometimes I get really sad about the reasons I was in such a lame relationship and I'm not nice to myself.

I'm here to learn to be nicer to myself and to move into the next part of my life.

I hope that's a good enough intro.

Hi and welcome!

First of all I must contgratulate that you stopped pretending and took the step to split up. I did the same thing earlier this year. A new world is now open to you and you should not beat yourself of over time wasted. When you look back I reccomend you focus on not letting it happen again.

You will find that many people who frequent this board have a hard time not going back to their partner and it sounds like that's not where you're at. From the little you have written it sounds like you have come a long way already!

[peacebaby]

Thank you.  It's hard work, trying to stay positive, but it seems to be the  only way to go. Positive and in the moment. It's hard, and I can't always do it, but I'm trying.