need help staying detached

[where am i?]

  so i tried to end this thing long before the losses.

Charmer that he was, beautifully. Potential perfect and i wind up loosing it all.  My home, career, daughters' stability, my integrity, reputation, you name it.  Stripped of it all down to the right to have my own feelings.  Used up and not exciting, wellmeaning and resolution finding, my bp decided he was done. Pregnant, broke, with no immidate way to live independently, my girls and i am living in athe spare room of a family member.  Im a a pain in my bps ass and missed? I am ar fault but get appologies? I am a horrible Inconvenience but please dont leave him? And then theres the use of words never always its not fun anymore you should have fault You deserve you wanted this i tried and on and on. Thing is i know the beast narcissistic BPDs are and still my hope and good natured forgiveness make me victim over and over. Helllllllp! Im addicted to what i wanted it to be and he is more than happy to keep me there. I dont have any outside validations anymore. He ran iff.my support group long ago.

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[123Phoebe]

Hi where am i   I'm glad you found us, sounds rough for you right now

How long ago did your guy leave?  Are you married?  When is your baby due?  How is your daughter doing?

Hang in there and please keep posting, okay?  It really helps to get our story out in the open... .

[Mutt]

Hi where am i?,



You've gone through a lot

Is your family validating during your stay?

It helps to talk.

Hang in there.

----Mutt