Hi LOVING_ONE,
I'd like to join once removed and welcome you to BPD family. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad that you decided to join us, you've come to the right place. I can relate with how distressing that feels when our partner picks a fight because of the way that we look at them, the tone in our voice or what we said or didn't say, it feels hopeless. It helps to share with people that can relate with you. You're not alone.
How long have you been together? Do you have kids? Have been stuck in this cycle for awhile?