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I blocked my exes number, (she left me beginning of this year) will she try to contact me? Some way some how? I’ve posted on here before, just curious as to what I should prepare for? Also she’s dated a guy when we first parted ways & then left him for me & then left him for me & I sent him a message last week apologizing to him & she was infuriated but I didn’t do it for her I did it for me because I felt like her leaving me was my karma for her leaving him if that makes sense... .but anyways he outted her to her mom but blocked me on fb but is still friends with him? Like wth, is she indifferent towards him & still cares for me? I don’t get it
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Just got into a huge argument with BPD female, we dated & things got ugly. She played the victim one too many times & I lost is & she threatened that she’ll be up here this weekend, to do what idk
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This is concerning. How did she threaten your life? Do you have support, in that others are aware of this to help you? A safety plan would be wise, such as here:
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What happened when you lost it? What did you do?
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I cussed out her, which is something I’ve never done before. I didn’t call her out of her name or anything like she did with me but I let her know I was tired of her being a victim. She told me I was mentally abusive & I lost it because of all people she’s the mentally abusive one. The things I said were harsh but they were reality & I don’t regret. She told me she’s coming up here this weekend & that I need to say everything to her face LOL
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So her threat was long distance over the phone when you both "lost it" - you don't feel in danger.
Do you want out? Or are you wanting to save this relationship? You posts are not clear.
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Where I’m from when someone says say something to their face it’s not a good thing, like they want to fight you . I don’t want anything to do with her, which is why I thinks she’s really mad. She didn’t expect me to react how I did, she wanted me to be sweet and understand like how I’ve usually been. What I said must have triggered her & now she wants to make a special trip here so I can talk my s*** to her face. It’s so stupid & high schoolish
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I don’t want anything to do with her, which is why I thinks she’s really mad.
Used to get this from my STBx, too. When I asked that we move to separate bedrooms she threw my stuff all over the room.
Meanwhile I had no idea why she'd be so mad given how awfully she was being toward me and the things she was saying. They were certainly no befitting a woman who wanted to be in the same bed as me, and I was done being argued with in a place intended for peace and quiet.
At times I did ask myself why she thought I would agree to be treated awfully. Did she think she was so hot and I was so in love with her and so pathetic that she could just do whatever she wanted to me and I'd keep coming back for more?
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also I think she made a fake fb profile and tried to friend me on there. I’m tired of being treated like crap. She really made me feel like I was going crazy
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