Official BPD break-up song?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

This isn't a breakup song and admittedly it was one of my FAVORITE songs as a teenage girl (hope this doesn't say anything about me), but I listened to it lately and was iike "Geez, if this isn't a BPD woman summarized up in a few lyrics."

My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult - Girl without a Planet

She wakes up in the mornin’ with a zodiac smile
Steps inside the body of a lost and lonely child
Made up for the mirror
With makeup like a whore
A hurricane churns in her brain
Little Miss No-Tomorrow

She’s the girl without a planet
A girl without a home
She’s the girl without a planet
An angel all alone

There’s garbage in her veins and reptiles in her head
Pretty poison nightmare with serpents in her bed
After dusk her eyes glow
For the tease of sex
Play with bombs and things explode
Little Miss No-Tomorrow

It’s time to think it over
It’s time you learn to heal
It’s time you change the record
Spin the wheel

Girl without a planet
She’s the girl without a planet
Girl without a planet

[araneina]

This isn't a breakup song and admittedly it was one of my FAVORITE songs as a teenage girl (hope this doesn't say anything about me), but I listened to it lately and was iike "Geez, if this isn't a BPD woman summarized up in a few lyrics."

My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult - Girl without a Planet

She wakes up in the mornin’ with a zodiac smile
Steps inside the body of a lost and lonely child
Made up for the mirror
With makeup like a whore
A hurricane churns in her brain
Little Miss No-Tomorrow

She’s the girl without a planet
A girl without a home
She’s the girl without a planet
An angel all alone

There’s garbage in her veins and reptiles in her head
Pretty poison nightmare with serpents in her bed
After dusk her eyes glow
For the tease of sex
Play with bombs and things explode
Little Miss No-Tomorrow

It’s time to think it over
It’s time you learn to heal
It’s time you change the record
Spin the wheel

Girl without a planet
She’s the girl without a planet
Girl without a planet

[JNChell]

John Prine-All The Best

I wish you love - and happiness
I guess I wish - you all the best
I wish you don't - do like I do
And never fall in love with someone like you
Cause if you fell - just like I did
You'd probably walk around the block like a little kid
But kids don't know - they can only guess
How hard it is - to wish you happiness

I guess that love - is like a Christmas card
You decorate a tree - you throw it in the yard
It decays and dies - and the snowmen melt
Well, I once knew love - I knew how love felt
Yeah I knew love - love knew me
And when I walked - love walked with me
And I got no hate - and I got no pride
Well, I got so much love that I cannot hide
Yeah, I got so much love that I cannot hide

Say you drive a Chevy - say you drive a Ford
Say you drive around the town 'till you just get bored
Then you change you mind - for something else to do
And your heart gets bored with your mind and it changes you
Well it's a doggone shame - and it's an awful mess
I wish you love - I wish you happiness
I wish you love - I wish you happiness
I guess I wish - you all the best

[Jami]

Mine has definitely been 'Black' by Pearl Jam. Not forcibly BPD-related, but oh! the drama and all that authentic sorrow in Vedder's beautiful voice... .


Sheets of empty canvas
Untouched sheets of clay
Were laid spread out before me
As her body once did
All five horizons
Revolved around her soul
As the earth to the sun
Now the air I tasted and breathed
Has taken a turn

Oh and all I taught her was everything
Oh I know she gave me all that she wore
And now my bitter hands
Chafe beneath the clouds
Of what was everything
Oh the pictures have
All been washed in black
Tattooed everything
I take a walk outside
I'm surrounded by
Some kids at play
I can feel their laughter
So why do I sear
Oh, and twisted thoughts that spin
Round my head
I'm spinning
Oh, I'm spinning
How quick the sun can, drop away

And now my bitter hands
Cradle broken glass
Of what was everything
All the pictures had
All been washed in black
Tattooed everything
All the love gone bad
Turned my world to black
Tattooed all I see
All that I am
All I'll be

Yeah
I know someday you'll have a beautiful life
I know you'll be a star
In somebody else's sky
But why
Why
Why can't it be
Why can't it be mine

[FlyFish]

Thanks for the John Prine song JNChell. Very fitting

I wish you don’t, do like I do. And never fall in love with someone like you. Brilliant

[JNChell]

Sure thing FlyFish! I’ve been a big Prine fan for a long time. I have to say that this one didn’t really have any meaning to me until now.

[Torched]

Well I’m so above you
And its plain to see
But I came to love you
Anyway
So you tore my heart out
And I don’t mind bleedin’
Any old time you keep me waitin’
Well Your mama kept you
But your daddy left you
And I should’a done you just the same
But I came to love you
And I want to flee
Any old time you keep me waitin, waitin’


Black Keys “Lonely Boy”

[Husband321]

Henry Rollins.  Song "liar"

Big Sean. Song "I don't f with you"

[crunchtime]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zevdDowmgpM

"Bridges Burn" by Paul Otten

Trained my mind on only one track
Hit the ground running and never looked back
Steered my eyes to the mission ahead

And I burnt that bridge

Never did listen to the innocent voice
Dismissed my heart never gave it much choice
Surrendered my soul to the mission ahead
And I burnt that bridge

Oh and I can't help
But think I'm losing it
Am I losing it?
As I watch, I watch
My bridges burn to ash

Maybe my heart's trying to give me a hint
Maybe it's time I start listening in
Maybe I'm too far into the thick
And I can't turn back

Oh and I can't help
But think I'm losing it
Am I losing it?
As I watch, I watch
My bridges burn to ash

Oh and I can't help
But think I'm losing it
Am I losing it?
As I watch, I watch
My bridges burn to ash

All my bridges burn to ash

All my bridges burn
All my bridges burn
All my bridges burn

[Jeffree]

This is still the one song that speaks to this the most for me:

The Outsider by A Perfect Circle

Help me if you can
It's just that this is
Not the way I'm wired
So could you please

Help me understand why
You've given in to all these
Reckless dark desires you're
Lying to yourself again
Suicidal imbecile
You're pounding on a fault line
What'll it take to get it through to you precious
Over this, why do you
Wanna throw it away like this
Such a mess, well I don't wanna watch you

Disconnect and self destruct one
Bullet at a time
What's your rush now, everyone will have his day to die

Medicated, drama queen
Picture perfect, numb belligerence
Narcissistic, drama queen, craving fame and all it's decadence

Lying through your teeth again
Suicidal imbecile
You're pounding on a fault line
What'll it take to get it through to you precious
Over this, why do you wanna
Throw it away like this
Such a mess, well I don't wanna watch you

Disconnect and self destruct one
Bullet at a time
What's your rush now, everyone will have his day to die

They were right about you

Lying to my face again
Suicidal imbecile
You're pounding on a fault line
What'll it take to get it through to you precious
Over this, why do you wanna
Throw it away like this
Such a mess, over this, over this

Disconnect and self destruct
One bullet at a time
What's your hurry, everyone will have his day to die
If you choose to pull the trigger, should your drama prove sincere
Do it somewhere far away from here

[blackmirror]

The Classic Crime-Ghost
A young man lacking sense
Sells his soul to circumstance
His movements indecise
He does not know that it will cost his life
She's a harlot
Boisterous and rebellious
Her husband gone this fathers daughter
Leads the young man to the slaughter

[Chorus]
In shadows you sleep
Too careless to see
The things that matter most (ghost, ghost)
So much that when you are faced with the truth
You look like you've seen a ghost (ghost, ghost)

A young man lacking sense
Pushes on to consequence
He lives to feed his flesh
The scavengers will clean up what is left
She's a harlot
Simple and persuasive
With seduction she always gets her way
Her bed will be his early grave
Chorus]
In shadows you sleep
Too careless to see
The things that matter most (ghost, ghost)
So much that when you are faced with the truth
You look like you've seen a ghost (ghost, ghost)

[Bridge]
But I still know the shadows evidence the glow
But I still know

[Ending]
Ghost (ghost)
Ghost
I'll only be your ghost
I'll only get so close
I'll only be your ghost
(Ghost)
In shadows we sleep
(I'll only be your ghost)
Too careless to see
(I'll only get so close)
When faced with the truth
(I'll only be your ghost)


Jimmy Eat World
The World You Love"

I got a story it's almost finished
all i need is someone to tell it too
maybe, that's you.

our time is borrowed and spent to freely
every minute i have needs to be made up
but how?
i'm looking for a nice way to say
"i'm out."
i want out.

i fall asleep with my friends around me
only place i know, i feel safe
i'm gonna call this home

the open road is still miles away
Hey nothing serious
we still have our fun
oh we had it once

Windows open and close
that's just how it goes

don't it feel like sunshine afterall
the world we love forever, gone
we're only just as happy
as everyone else seems to think we are

i'm in love with the ordinary
i need a simple space
and rest my head
everything gets clear
well i'm a little ashamed for asking
but just a little helps
it gets me straight again
helps me get over it (over it)

it might seem like a dream
but it's real to me

don't it feel like sunshine afterall
the world we love forever, gone
we're only just as happy
as everyone else seems to think we are

you should see the canals are freezing
you should see me high
you should just be here
be with me here
it doesn't seem theres hope for me
i let you down
but i won't give in now
not for any amount

don't it feel like sunshine afterall
the world we love forever, gone
we're only just as happy
as everyone else seems to think we are

[Little known]

Yes, Better Man by Little Big Town. Every time I hear it!

Also, I Look So Good Without You by Jessie James. This is how I feel when I've gotten a break from him - a reminder that I can be a better version of myself without him:

Boy I would have thought that,
When you left me I'd be broken,
With my confidence gone,
So gone.

Hey boy I would have thought that
When you said that you don't want me
I'd feel ugly as if something was wrong

Standin' in front of the mirror
My skin's never been clearer
My smile's never been whiter

I look so good without you
Got me a new hair do
Lookin' fresh and brand new
Since you said that we were through

Done with your lies
Baby now my tears dry
You can see my brown eyes
Ever since you said goodbye

Hey I never would have thought that
When you left me
I'd feel sexy and so good in my skin again

And I never would have known that
I'd be dreaming so much better
Without you in my head

Standin' in front of the mirror
My clothes never fit better
My laugh's never been louder

Now baby my body's lookin' better than before
Ain't biting my nails since you walked out of that door
I realize now I deserve so much more
Than what you give

[MakingBelieve]

This song is so sad and haunting. To me it describes it to the point.


FAR FROM ME

For you, dear, I was born
For you I was raised up
For you I’ve lived and for you I will die
For you I am dying now
You were my mad little lover
In a world where everybody ___s everybody else over

You who are so
Far from me
So far from me
Way across some cold neurotic sea
Far from me

I would talk to you of all manner of things
With a smile you would reply
Then the sun would leave your pretty face
And you’d retreat from the front of your eyes
I keep hearing that you’re doing your best
I hope your heart beats happy
In your infant breast

You are so far from me
Far from me
Far from me

There is no knowledge but I know it
There’s nothing to learn from that vacant voice
That sails to me across the line
From the ridiculous to the sublime
It’s good to hear you’re doing so well
But really can’t you find somebody else that you can ring and tell?

Did you ever care for me?
Were you ever there for me? So far from me

You told me you’d stick by me
Through the thick and through the thin
Those were your very words
My fair-weather friend

You were my brave-hearted lover
At the first taste of trouble went running back to mother
So far from me
Far from me
Suspended in your bleak and fishless sea
Far from me
Far from me

[Wolfsocks]

I would like to add a song a bit on the humorous side: The Duck Song
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtN1YnoL46Q

I know it's a children's song but I think the duck displays signs of delusion and disrespect. The man tending the lemonade stand tries to set boundaries but instead of following through (gluing the duck to a wall) he starts enabling the duck (buying grapes for it). Then he realizes that the duck continues to mess with him. The duck always wants the things it can't have and will continue to request impossible things from him.

[JNChell]

Wolfsocks, my Son loves that song! This made me smile. I’ll also listen to it from this POV the next time he wants to watch it.

[blooming]

I think this new Kesha song (not someone I usually listen to but I found her Grammy's performance on YouTube) really suits breaking away form a BPD relationship too. It's very empowering!

Kesha - Praying

Well, you almost had me fooled
Told me that I was nothing without you
Oh, but after everything you've done
I can thank you for how strong I have become

'Cause you brought the flames and you put me through hell
I had to learn how to fight for myself
And we both know all the truth I could tell
I'll just say this is "I wish you farewell"

I hope you're somewhere prayin', prayin'
I hope your soul is changin', changin'
I hope you find your peace
Falling on your knees, prayin'

I'm proud of who I am
No more monsters, I can breathe again
And you said that I was done
Well, you were wrong and now the best is yet to come
'Cause I can make it on my own, oh
And I don't need you, I found a strength I've never known
I'll bring thunder, I'll bring rain, oh
When I'm finished, they won't even know your name

You brought the flames and you put me through hell
I had to learn how to fight for myself
And we both know all the truth I could tell
I'll just say this is "I wish you farewell"

I hope you're somewhere prayin', prayin'
I hope your soul is changin', changin'
I hope you find your peace
Falling on your knees, prayin'

Ah sometimes, I pray for you at night, oh
Someday, maybe you'll see the light
Whoa oh oh oh, some say, in life, you're gonna get what you give
But some things only God can forgive

Yeah! (I hope you're somewhere prayin', prayin'
I hope your soul is changin', changin'
I hope you find your peace
Falling on your knees, prayin'

[RandomName]

The Finches, "Last Favor":

I feel I've done my last favor
So I'll say goodbye
Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye

I know we both
Have gone a long time being denied
Instead of being favored

Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye
Please don't ever let me do you wrong
And never do me wrong

You know, I'd like to dream
In dreams, in dreams
We never say goodbye

Goodbye, goodbye
Goodbye, goodbye

Once, I saw you on some corner
I tried to say hello, hello
Hello, hello
I know it's been an awful long time
And now it shows
How time has made us older
Hello, hello, hello

You know, I never meant to do you wrong
But life is not so long
And so I'll cross the street
I don't believe we ever said goodbye

Goodbye, goodbye
Goodbye, goodbye
Goodbye

----------

Chris Isaak, "I Believe":

I believe the stars keep shining all thought the night.
I believe if we just keep trying it will be all right.
I believe that someday we're gonna find our way.
And I believe in a beautiful day.

I believe in lovers walking side by side.
I believe that someday we'll be satisfied.
I believe the angels listen, god hears us pray.
And I believe in a beautiful day.
Yeah I believe it's gonna work out okay.

But not for me, and not for you.

I believe, I believe, I believe.
I believe, I believe, I believe.

I believe there's an answer waiting when the day is done.
I believe if you just keep searching you'll find someone.
I believe that you and I just lost our way.
And I believe in a beautiful day.
I still believe in a beautiful day.

But not for me, and not for you.
I know you tried, and I tried too.
Sometime all our dreams just don't come true.

I believe, I believe, I believe.
I believe, I believe, I believe.
Oh, oh, beautiful day

[I_Am_The_Fire]

My list includes:

"I Am the Fire" by Halestorm (of course)

Am I brave enough?
Am I strong enough?
To follow the desire
That burns from within
To push away my fear
To stand where I'm afraid
I am through with this
'Cause I am more than this
I promise to myself
Alone and no one else
My flame is rising higher

"Lift Me Up" by Five Finger Death Punch

I've been thrown down,
Run around
Beaten 'til I hit the ground
I'm telling you right now that it's over

"Roar" by Katy Perry

I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
So I sat quietly, agreed politely
I guess that I forgot I had a choice
I let you push me past the breaking point
I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything
You held me down, but I got up (hey!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, your hear that sound
Like thunder, gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up
Get ready 'cause I had enough
I see it all, I see it now
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter
Dancing through the fire
'Cause I am a champion, and you're gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
'Cause I am a champion, and you're gonna hear me roar!

"The Light" by Disturbed

When you think all is forsaken
Listen to me now (all is not forsaken)
You need never feel broken again
Sometimes darkness can show you the light

"Stronger" by Through Fire

I can't believe in you any longer (any longer)
I am stronger
I can't believe in you any longer (any longer)
I am stronger, stronger than you

[stixx44]

Miranda Lambert Love Your Memory

LYRICS
I don't want to see you or feel you
I don't want to look into your eyes
I don't want to touch you or miss you
I just want to love your memory tonight

I can't handle all this pain all we ever do is fight anyway
Why we even tried I haven't a clue
With hearts involved
There's way too much to lose

I don't want to see you or feel you
I don't want to look into your eyes
I don't want to touch you or miss you
I just want to love your memory tonight

You were something else to look at
Your intentions they weren't all bad
Tried to make me something I was'nt
Lord knows there ain't no future
In all that

I don't want to see you or feel you
I don't want to look into your eyes
I don't want to touch you or miss you
I just want to love your memory tonight

[Will2Power]

It’s not so much a breakup song, but it describes BPD/NPD. It may be triggering.


Liar by Rollins Band.
https://youtu.be/awY1MRlMKMc

[Notgoneyet]

 Wow thanks, TBK for starting this thread,
  Very powerful feeling relating to a lot of these tunes. Crazy how so many of them fit so well with what I've dealt w & apparently many others on here.
  Safe to say for me music is one way I have survived the ups & downs  w my SO.  I have had more then a few Car Karaoke sessions on my way out to work or just cooling off after a blow up.
   Music has Always helped me through those times.
  2 favorites - Sam's (Good at goodbye)
                  Tyler Swifts (Better Man) by Little Big Town

[Learning2Thrive]

There have been many songs for me over the years since the breakup... .but these days I’m smiling and enjoying the heck out of this one:
https://youtu.be/A56p-ZSZ5Vc

You Broke Up with Me
Walker Hayes
Well, I got some coke in my bourbon
Surfin' the room like Swazye
No, I ain't drunk, I'm amazing
Yeah, I got that laid way way back back in my swagger
Xfactor feeling no pain I'm at the top of my game
Darlin' you can't crash my party with your 'Sorry's and 'What Are We's
Don't start rainin' on my Mardi Gras parade for a minute
I ain't even fixin' to listen to your guilt trippin'
You're forgettin' girl you made your bed and didn't want me in it (Hey!)
Woah girl, simmer on down a notch
Ain't nobody making you watch me get my forget you on
No girl, can't touch my good as gold
I know it's difficult to see me on a roll
But hey, you broke up with me
Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me
Guess you don't know what you want
'Til you see I'm movin' on
Makin' lonely look like freedom
Baby, don't even act like I'm doing something wrong
If my song comes on and I get lost on that dance floor
In somebody's arms that aren't yours
You can't crash my party with your 'Sorry's and 'What Are We's
Don't be rainin' on my Mardi Gras parade for a minute
I ain't even fixin' to listen to your guilt trippin'
You're forgettin' girl you made your bed and didn't want me in it (Hey!)
Woah girl, simmer on down a notch
Ain't nobody making you watch me get my forget you on
No girl, can't touch my good as gold
I know it's difficult to see me on a roll (Hey!)
But hey, you broke up with me
Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me
For real babe, ain't tryin' rub it your face
I'm just breakin off a little cold hard truth
It is what it is girl, you did what you did girl
I'm just doin' what a bachelor do
Darlin' you can't crash my party with your 'Sorry's and 'What Are We's
Don't be rainin' on my Mardi Gras parade for a minute (Quit it!)
I ain't even fixin' to listen to your guilt trippin'
You're forgettin' girl you made your bed and didn't want me in it (Hey!)
Woah girl, simmer on down a notch
Ain't nobody making you watch me get my forget you on
No girl, can't touch my good as gold
I know it's difficult to see me on a roll
But hey, you broke up with me
Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me
You broke up with me
Yeah, what can I say babe, you broke up with me