What 'saved' you?

[Our abuse recovery guide]

JNChell! I used to dissociate the most when talking about positive things, getting compliments, etc.  I had to work really hard on it in T, to be able to hear them but also say something positive about myself.  It was incredibly hard to do.  Now I am better but I can reach saturation level pretty quickly sometimes.  Trying not to run is hard.  Are you like that or is it different?

Nice job re-wording stuff to have a more empowering sound to it. 

So, it is not so much your ex but rather the common feelings and triggers with your childhood.  That makes sense JNChell.

I guess it’s just a feeling that I didn’t want to, nor expect to experience again. Newfound knowledge has let me know that it was basically destined to happen if the original trauma was never properly processed. The knowledge and testimonies help to navigate what often feels like a blind path to healing.

Yes.  I am glad you are open enough to see this.  Not everyone is.  It still hurts though and sometimes I get so angry.  I am glad you are working on it here though.   

[Harri]

JNChell! I used to dissociate the most when talking about positive things, getting compliments, etc.  I had to work really hard on it in T, to be able to hear them but also say something positive about myself.  It was incredibly hard to do.  Now I am better but I can reach saturation level pretty quickly sometimes.  Trying not to run is hard.  Are you like that or is it different?

Nice job re-wording stuff to have a more empowering sound to it. 

So, it is not so much your ex but rather the common feelings and triggers with your childhood.  That makes sense JNChell.

I guess it’s just a feeling that I didn’t want to, nor expect to experience again. Newfound knowledge has let me know that it was basically destined to happen if the original trauma was never properly processed. The knowledge and testimonies help to navigate what often feels like a blind path to healing.

Yes.  I am glad you are open enough to see this.  Not everyone is.  It still hurts though and sometimes I get so angry.  I am glad you are working on it here though.   

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my faith was a big part of it. i suppose that kind of formed my basis of Radical Acceptance... .that things may be terrible now, but to trust that they wont always be that way. im kind of a fatalist too, a "everything happens for a reason" (generally speaking... .sometimes terrible things just happen and we dont have to go looking for silver linings) kind of guy, so i could face the bad stuff without totally losing it.

otherwise, it was having the same close group of friends my whole life. they say if youve got one or two close friends, however many other friends you have, youre ahead of the game. it did give me a consistent sense of who i am, and belonging.

[JNChell]

Evenin’, evenin’!

Trying not to run is hard.  Are you like that or is it different?

I’m a bull nosed fighter. I don’t quit.

It’s the childhood, Harri. We know. Science is starting to catch on. Actually, the spokesman for science are starting to realize that their hands might be tied soon.  :cursing:holes.

Yes. There’s no denying that my childhood was triggered. From what I know it was bound to happen sooner or later.

[Mutt]

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