Hi Hopeful430
Glad you are still in touch here. How are things going for you? Bet there are good days...and bad days...hopefully more and more of the good ones, though./
For sure this is a long, difficult journey we are on. I relate to you more so because we are in the same age bracket...faced with living through these troublesome relationships with our daughters...not something we ever thought would happen in these "golden years" of ours.
I always confess to being a work-in-progress but quite proud of myself that there has been progress...with me...but sadly not with her. If anything, her anger and her lashing out has accelerated in recent years. Because of that I have had to take steps to better educate myself on how to ward off elder abuse...know who to call if I feel she is going too far. Heaven forbid she would ever go as far as physical abuse (but who knows as I become less able to look after myself), verbal abuse is demeaning and it can wear one down.
I urge you to keep sharing. Reaching out and helping others has been rewarding for me...perhaps you will find the same. I read in a previous post that you are (were?) seeing a counsellor for yourself. I hope you find solace in that...are able to continue on. We need to keep looking after ourselves, Hopeful430.
((HUGS)...
...from Huat