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Almost ninety days NC and I get a call about her oil change appointment tomorrow at nine am. I'm not triggered and I'm completely fine.
I'm posting here because I wanted to call her and say, "Please remove my number from all your accounts. I'm not handling things for you anymore and I don't want to be reminded of you."
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Kudos to you for not making that call!
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I got a call for her ultrasound appointment and was asked if they could reach my ex. I gave them her cell and advised to not call my number as we're seperated. It made me wonder why she wouldn't update her number for an important appointment.
Either way, I simply gave the correct contact info so they can update their records and circumvent calling ex and telling her to minimize the chance of conflict. I agree it's her stuff and she should take care of it.
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I got several calls from my ex's doctor's office. But I figured if I didn't return the call they'd eventually quit calling me. Which they did. I decided ANY response (even me calling the doctor's office directly) could somehow get back to him and reinforce his (bad) behavior. GOOD FOR YOU! I keep reminding myself NO RESPONSE = NO RESPONSE
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Oh yeah, the one time I actually accepted a call from the doctor's office it was exBPDbf on the phone! Learned from that one
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Yeah. No anger, stress or frustration just a minor annoyance.
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A-MEN! Peace is possible.
I am at day #83 since I responded to UxBPDbf. Today is day #10 of NC from his end (the longest he has gone since I ended r/s). Woo-hoo!
Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of the day we met. I am PRAYING we get through the day with NO CONTACT from him. Fingers crossed.
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