Facebook Dilemma

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hello All:

I haven't posted for a while.  I have been reading frequently though.  

I was able to move past my uBPDx and life feels good again.  I haven't heard from him in quite a while and he never paid any of the money he owed me (that caused me significant pain)  I no longer work where I used to so I felt safe I would never hear from him again.

A few days ago I saw a post he made to one of my colleagues on Facebook.  I found him on Facebook once and knew we didn't have any friends in common.  He made sure to change his life to only fit his new girlfriend and his/her friends from out of town.  We now share 4 friends on Facebook and I have a feeling that number will increase because there are other acquaintances he knows as well on my friend list (we used to work together).  

I don't feel comfortable having this connection. I can't be sure if he is doing this because of them or another reason but it is too close for comfort.   I have been thinking of dropping the friends

we have in common.  Should I?

[Bitonomore]

Hello All:

I haven't posted for a while.  I have been reading frequently though.  

I was able to move past my uBPDx and life feels good again.  I haven't heard from him in quite a while and he never paid any of the money he owed me (that caused me significant pain)  I no longer work where I used to so I felt safe I would never hear from him again.

A few days ago I saw a post he made to one of my colleagues on Facebook.  I found him on Facebook once and knew we didn't have any friends in common.  He made sure to change his life to only fit his new girlfriend and his/her friends from out of town.  We now share 4 friends on Facebook and I have a feeling that number will increase because there are other acquaintances he knows as well on my friend list (we used to work together).  

I don't feel comfortable having this connection. I can't be sure if he is doing this because of them or another reason but it is too close for comfort.   I have been thinking of dropping the friends

we have in common.  Should I?

[2010]

I have been thinking of dropping the friends we have in common.  Should I?

No. Keep the friends. Block him and you will no longer see his posts and he will no longer see yours. The friends will be none the wiser to the blocking and you can maintain your friendships with them.

[Bitonomore]

Thank you 2010. Your posts were some of the most helpful to me in my time of pain. 

It's amazing how small insignificant things like these bring back anxiety.