Bidding farewell, for now

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I texted back and forth with my wife yesterday. It was not a pleasant experience. I was told over and over I was abusive in our relationship. Do you think there would be a single example? Of course there isn't. What get's me is, a fight where we disagree is not abuse. If I am upset with my son, and you tell me if I say one more word to him and threaten to jump out of the car if I do, I am not abusing you. I looked at my wife when this happened, and she said exactly that, go ahead, say another word and I am getting out of this car. My response was, are you serious, you are going to sit here and tell me I cannot address my son about an issue otherwise you'll jump out of the car? And guess what happened next? That's right. I pulled up to a light and bam, she opened the door and ran across the road into a shopping mall. My god, who does this? And I am being abusive?

I have had enough of this silliness. The bed she made is where she can sleep without me. I am tired. I blocked all her email addresses and I paid for a service on my cell phone through the carrier to block all text and calls from her. I also added other phone numbers she may call from.

I am done.

I am also taking a break from these boards. I am finding that the more time I spend looking for answers, the more time I am spending not living my life.

Everyone on this board that has responded to my postings, I thank you.

I am starting therapy again this week. I am sure that will be helpful.

I wish you all the best... .  and I wish you all can move forward and heal. These BPD issues are unbelievable. I am still amazed my wife, the emotionally intelligent one, is really not... not so much...

Thank s all...

[spaceace]

I texted back and forth with my wife yesterday. It was not a pleasant experience. I was told over and over I was abusive in our relationship. Do you think there would be a single example? Of course there isn't. What get's me is, a fight where we disagree is not abuse. If I am upset with my son, and you tell me if I say one more word to him and threaten to jump out of the car if I do, I am not abusing you. I looked at my wife when this happened, and she said exactly that, go ahead, say another word and I am getting out of this car. My response was, are you serious, you are going to sit here and tell me I cannot address my son about an issue otherwise you'll jump out of the car? And guess what happened next? That's right. I pulled up to a light and bam, she opened the door and ran across the road into a shopping mall. My god, who does this? And I am being abusive?

I have had enough of this silliness. The bed she made is where she can sleep without me. I am tired. I blocked all her email addresses and I paid for a service on my cell phone through the carrier to block all text and calls from her. I also added other phone numbers she may call from.

I am done.

I am also taking a break from these boards. I am finding that the more time I spend looking for answers, the more time I am spending not living my life.

Everyone on this board that has responded to my postings, I thank you.

I am starting therapy again this week. I am sure that will be helpful.

I wish you all the best... .  and I wish you all can move forward and heal. These BPD issues are unbelievable. I am still amazed my wife, the emotionally intelligent one, is really not... not so much...

Thank s all...

[FoolishOne]

Spaceace... .  you have my admiration, my respect and my best wishes that your life will be so much better.  Congratulations on taking that first step.  Live life and never look back except to learn from the mistakes, brother.

If you would, as a favor to us who have yet to reach escape velocity, kindly check in and tell us how you're doing.  Hope is all some of us have left.

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[Rose Tiger]

   Best wishes with therapy and your journey in healing. 

[Surnia]

Spaceace 

Great you will start T! I wish you all the best for your path toward healing! I can understand that you want to stay back from the boards here.

If you feel the wish to come back some day, feel free to do so. Perhaps the Taking Personal Inventory Board would be the better place for you than.

Take care.