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« on: January 24, 2013, 01:47:55 AM »
Bypassed the locks on meds chest by drilling around clasp.

OD number 16.

So I have imposed 24 hour NC as promised consequence.

Gone fishing.

Today is just too damn sunny to be wasted having dramas

Being cool (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2013, 02:27:36 AM »
That shows how determined she is - for something 

She isn't staying in the hospital long enough to get any help, so what is she gaining? They won't admit her into a rehab unit any faster... .  

I am curious on how she responds to your taking off. Not that I blame you for wanting to escape  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2013, 05:51:48 AM »
Enjoy the calm of fishing. Glad you kept up with the promised consequence.

She really is determined.
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« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2013, 06:06:47 AM »
WOW!  Just WOW.  I hope you have a good day in spite of the drama. 
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« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2013, 10:16:32 AM »
Ugghh! I'm sorry to hear that happened. Glad you are following through with what you said. TRy to enjoy your day.
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« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2013, 11:32:07 AM »
Quote from: waverider on January 24, 2013, 01:47:55 AM
Today is just too damn sunny to be wasted having dramas

There really isnt anything that can be said Wave.  Other than, hope you catch lots of fish!
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« Reply #6 on: January 24, 2013, 11:45:17 AM »
Short of buying an actual safe, I'm not sure what else you can do.  As you know, these are her decisions.  Where there is a will, there is a way . . . and she obviously has the will.   

I'm glad you are taking care of yourself through this.  And like UFN, I'm curious what she makes of your fishing trip.
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« Reply #7 on: January 24, 2013, 11:47:46 AM »
Ugh.

I sure hope you can relax on your trip as well. 
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« Reply #8 on: January 25, 2013, 02:00:17 AM »
Had a good rest, just as I arrived home i caught her attacking the padlock on the garage door with a pic axe. Tabs are locked in an industrial steel box and then locked in garage studio.

Claiming shes already taken some leftovers from the last break in. Dont know if she's bluffing, if she calls an ambulance again I wont be here in the morning.

I'm staying calm, stress free and detached without lecturing. Shes not ranting at me which is good.
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« Reply #9 on: January 25, 2013, 05:45:42 AM »
   So glad that you kept your word to yourself and went fishing... .  good for you. I think that keeping OUR WORD to OUR SELVES is sometimes the hardest... .  kudos and congrats. Continue to take care of yourself... .  
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« Reply #10 on: January 25, 2013, 07:39:33 AM »
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I'm staying calm, stress free and detached without lecturing.

Good luck Wave.
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« Reply #11 on: January 25, 2013, 05:37:23 PM »
Didn't call an ambulance this time, maybe a lesson taken on board?

Didn't leave this time as its really just a continuation of same incident and "reward" for not calling ambo.

Going to the football later today, I will be turning my phone off as that is usually prime time to get the "whoa is me phone calls about she might do something bad", psychological blackmail to pollute my time away.

She's just going to have to suck it up with the abandonment issues, as long as I am clear about what I doing.
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