Thanks, I like this a lot.
My T told me to think of it as her being someone else's problem. When she broke up with her ex, she said that she was glad that he was finally going to leave her alone, stop recycling. Took me awhile to get there. I still miss my ex at times but ultimately, when I think about who she really is, I know I don't want that person. I want what I thought she was. Now, its someone else problem to deal with and I have much more peace, even when I'm sad.