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« on: January 30, 2013, 08:10:30 PM »

How does it make you feel?   When my exgfpbd is dating someone new and

I'm not dating anybody I feel like crap.  I feel like a little kid not on the same level.

I'm jealous that she's dating someone.  It's a made up battle in my head that I can't get over.
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« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2013, 08:16:24 PM »

My T told me to think of it as her being someone else's problem. When she broke up with her ex, she said that she was glad that he was finally going to leave her alone, stop recycling. Took me awhile to get there. I still miss my ex at times but ultimately, when I think about who she really is, I know I don't want that person. I want what I thought she was. Now, its someone else problem to deal with and I have much more peace, even when I'm sad.
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« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2013, 08:24:30 PM »

Makes me feel mad that hes left me in this mess and can just pick right up with someone else and im too sick to date!  I have no desire or interest to pick up with someone new and its been many months. Hes probably had  at least 3 new ones already fast as he must go through them.
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« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2013, 08:38:46 PM »

Sick to my stomach and brings up all kinds of memories about his cheating (20 women, 18 online to various degrees).  It's not been two months since he wanted to marry me and now he's actively looking and maybe has found someone--her name is almost the same as mine.  That happened before, too--he dated a woman and then immediately dated another woman with the same name. 

I won't date until I feel that I've learned how to love and live with me... .  otherwise this will all happen again. 
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« Reply #4 on: January 30, 2013, 09:36:23 PM »

Thanks, I like this a lot.

My T told me to think of it as her being someone else's problem. When she broke up with her ex, she said that she was glad that he was finally going to leave her alone, stop recycling. Took me awhile to get there. I still miss my ex at times but ultimately, when I think about who she really is, I know I don't want that person. I want what I thought she was. Now, its someone else problem to deal with and I have much more peace, even when I'm sad.

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« Reply #5 on: January 31, 2013, 03:00:52 AM »

I won't start dating until i'm emotionally and physically fixed again Smiling (click to insert in post) although you miss the intimacy, the hugging and cuddling, the waking up next to someone, I can't go look for someone else. The mere thought that that goes ballistic 2 will put me 5 meters under the ground. I'm just not stable enough atm.
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