I will share something I do which helps me a bit... . not the most intellectual thing to do but just prior to the last recycle I stumbled onto the ID channel... . Investigation Discovery... . and started recording and watching their programs... . most of which are about crazy relationships ending very badly it seems... . many of the 'characters' have BPD traits.
Watching these trash/crime documentaries has been helpful for me as I ask myself... . "what if I had married her? maybe that would happen to me... . " etc.
Ha - That was my ex's favorite channel. Thinking about her strong attraction to these types of shows is the really scary part...
I like that channel because I see that there is always somebody that has it ´worse´than me and also reminds me of how dysfunctional relatonships can spiral out of control.
Flipped this channel on tonight while cooking dinner - caught a segment about a woman with BPD who kills her husband. Got a chuckle out of the actors' portrayal of some of the "drama" leading up to the homicide. The woman is hammered, swaying back and forth, and yelling, "YOU'RE SO CONTROLLING, YOU'RE SO MANIPULATIVE," to the husband whilst intermittently chugging out of a bottle of wine.
Man, we used to watch this stuff TOGETHER! Never would have thunk it.
Better for it to be on TV than in my life anymore haha.
Well my exgf got evicted from her apt and moved back in with her "kidnapper" the "controlling" ex-husband. From what I gather it is not a romantic relationship but a rescue mission to keep her and her college student son off the street. And it is causing him trouble because he is now estranged from his gf who is also his boss at his job.
I feel sorry for the ex-husband (who is coincidentally an old friend of mine from hs) because I think he has been guilted into this situation.
Anyways my experiences with this women are without a doubt the weirdest experiences of my life.