If you know they have BPD what can you do? what are you trying. Even if you left

[Not2Crazy]

Some of you are with someone who has BPD trying to make it work. right?

Tell me about that!

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[Rockylove]

There is so much to tell... .  where would you like me to begin?  I wasn't aware of BPD in my bf when the relationship began and he is not diagnosed, but all the signs and symptoms are there. 

The more I learn about the disorder, the more I learn about myself and my role in the relationship.  It's challenging and I struggle, but overall the good times far outweigh the bad times and that's why I continue to stay with him... .  we are to be married in June.

Is there anything specific that you are looking for help with?  Any particular area that you're struggling with?

There are many great resources here and I hope that you find some of the answers to help make your situation workable.

[Not2Crazy]

Actually mine divorced me after 20 years and I didn't learn what it was till after so now I am having to deal with what can I do so to help minimize the damage she is doing to the children and my future relationships and because she thinks my problem is not understanding her because I am "evil" so she wants to follow here many very crazy ideas about

[Not2Crazy]

everything. oops

[Not2Crazy]

Rocky does your pwBPD know/ think thay have a problem since you said undiagnosed and I never heard anyone here say they had good times. I did too but was obvious as to why things didn't make sense and why I felt pulled apart and after I really did do bad I was like really not off the hook... .  does this make sense ?

Generally the lack of responses to my last 6 posts have been so slight and replies to my go ahead and vent posts have been heavy and me having in only 30 posts of experience is depressing me. This was a bad investment for me this BPD wife. I don't think that I learned anything about myself except that I made a mistake .

[fakename]

not2crazy,

thats a cute looking dog as your avatar... .  makes me miss mine

the best advice i've gotten since i came to these boards, was to read all of the member "2010"'s posts... .  :

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?action=profile;u=38193;sa=showPosts

they're great