Do They Ever Bottom Out?

[ScotisGone74]

I was just considering that the expwBPD of course would never admit she had a problem, much less get help for her BPD.  I guess my question is that as long as the BPD has their looks, has money, or is otherwise able to pick out/lure their supply of self esteem do they ever consider they need help or admit they have a real problem?  I believe the answer in my case is most certainly no, I think that as long as they can still get unsuspecting victims to leach off of they will never really seek professional help.  What does it take for undiagnosed BPD's to admit they have a serious problem/get professional therapy/help?  I'm interested in hearing about your experiences. 

[GreenMango]

Rock bottom is a pretty ugly place.  My experience was mine was like an addict in the behavior (had some self-medicating drug use too) and as long as there were "unsuspecting victims" negative advocates - enablers - it really reinforced that this would work as long as it was allowed.

DBT therapy is pretty interesting because at one point it addresses family systems and how the family dynamic functions to perpetuate the dysfuction.  Same goes for Alcoholics and Alanon for families. 

As long as it's working for a person and they are getting what they need or want why change?  Just because one person is unhappy?  It's easier to move on to another person who enables. 

I was a killer enabler.  I could enable with the best of them.  Probably why it went on for so long.   Miraculously it ended when I stopped enabling.