Poetry,Shakespeare and whimsical verse?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I think we have all at some point experienced the same words of professed love and adoration, especially during the idealising phase. I recall such sentences as ' completely, body and soul' ' with every bone in my body' 'yours and only yours' and the list goes on.

Those phrases seem to pop up on here as if they are something you can purchase from a 'how to seduce a vulnerabl woman' shop 

Seriously though, they are very deep and meaningful words to read when you are already falling in love, the stronger the words, the deeper we fall, especially if we have never been 'wooed' in such a way before.

What I found too was that at intervals, usually when he felt (little boy lost) he would send me phrases which I felt he had read from a book, the inside of a card or something he kept in his head for when he needed to bring them to the surface.

More than just the usual 'thinking of you,missing you' words... . and very poetic, and over the top.

Every time I would back away a little those phrases would come to me, predictably in fact. I always knew it was to reel me back in, and it became rather boring for want of a better word.

Lately I have had LC, and it's been on the same level for a while,, thinking of you, missing you, over and over, but out of the blue, those stronger phrases have started coming through.

I haven't backed away, nor have I pulled at him for anything other than he normally gives (which is not a lot), so I am wondering why he is doing this. I don't take it serously anymore, it used to pull at my heart, not now.

I so wish I could take it as sincere, but I just don't anymore.

Has anyone else had this? Is it possible that something triggered a memory in them which took them back to the beginning in their heads?

[Peterpan]

I think we have all at some point experienced the same words of professed love and adoration, especially during the idealising phase. I recall such sentences as ' completely, body and soul' ' with every bone in my body' 'yours and only yours' and the list goes on.

Those phrases seem to pop up on here as if they are something you can purchase from a 'how to seduce a vulnerabl woman' shop 

Seriously though, they are very deep and meaningful words to read when you are already falling in love, the stronger the words, the deeper we fall, especially if we have never been 'wooed' in such a way before.

What I found too was that at intervals, usually when he felt (little boy lost) he would send me phrases which I felt he had read from a book, the inside of a card or something he kept in his head for when he needed to bring them to the surface.

More than just the usual 'thinking of you,missing you' words... . and very poetic, and over the top.

Every time I would back away a little those phrases would come to me, predictably in fact. I always knew it was to reel me back in, and it became rather boring for want of a better word.

Lately I have had LC, and it's been on the same level for a while,, thinking of you, missing you, over and over, but out of the blue, those stronger phrases have started coming through.

I haven't backed away, nor have I pulled at him for anything other than he normally gives (which is not a lot), so I am wondering why he is doing this. I don't take it serously anymore, it used to pull at my heart, not now.

I so wish I could take it as sincere, but I just don't anymore.

Has anyone else had this? Is it possible that something triggered a memory in them which took them back to the beginning in their heads?

[rollercoaster24]

Hi Peterpan,

Yes, I know what you mean, and oh such romance and seemingly sincere words of love, for me, I had never experienced such things from any man I had ever been involved with. I am now 45!

The difference between myself and my BP, was that I did not say those kind of words often, but when I did, I really

meant them, with all my heart.

Mine would often say, that he also only got 'aroused' when he was near me, but I always felt like he was lying, because his actions did not meet his words. Hell, he said such a complete range of totally separated thoughts, that I really felt like he didn't even know who he was himself, such was the paradox at times.

For me, I meant every word I said, I was never interested in another man, from the day I met him, never tempted, never flirted, and carried that eternal flame of hope in my heart forever. I had all these dreams, based on what he said he shared with me, and now, the fact that one of them is sitting in my driveway is a little too much to bear at times. No, I will not sell it, as I have a business, and would be foolish to, as it is the type of vehicle I need for that purpose, but looking at it still makes me cry.

It was a project that he insisted we work on together for our future, we did, and I got it licensed and legal at the beginning of this year, so we could supposedly go on road trips together, in the not too distant future, when I could finally have a week off after only 4 years of solid work.

When I think about what he has around him, to remind him of me, there really is nothing obvious. He still has his project car, that he brought himself on me and my wages, and has worked away on that for the last year, feverishly.

This he did, after he moved back to his elderly parents, still unemployed, and now 5 years, yep, that is all my fault too.

When I look at my cars, neither of them are ego boosters, but his project car, certainly is. The money he has wasted on that thing, has cost me a fortune, it was already perfectly fine when he brought it, but he has idled away time, supposedly improving the 'grunt' of it all. To impress who?

And who can afford to drive a V8 these days, with the price of petrol as it is? He can barely afford to put petrol/maintenance into his drive car. The only reason it is legally able to be driven on the road, is because his Mother recently paid $265 so he could register it. Prior to that, he had the money himself many times over, but blew it, with no real explanation. This is a 46 year old man, who does not pay board/rent/utilities to anyone, and has not done for many years.

His sense of entitlement is out of this world, and was already well intact when I met him. I have just been conned for too long now.