he flipped into a rage and has taken everything and left

[blackorchid]

good idea about the boundary arabella thank you 

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[allibaba]

Hi blackorchid,

From my experience the only way to stay sane in these relationships is to take care of yourself and find a way to be less enmeshed.  What are activities that you love?  :)o you have friends around?  I know that you relocated to be with your BPD.  What are the little things in life that can keep you calm and happy when he's not there.

Obviously I am a little too good at this because I have stayed with a husband who treats me badly at times and I can still find sanity so maybe I am not the best person to ask ... .

Sending you all the hugs in the world and will ask around about the skype/ phone therapist today (as promised).

            

I never cut off contact from my husband completely so I find that a loving message (whether well received or not) is worth its weight in gold... . again I may not be the best person to ask because my relationship perpetuates despite the fact that my uBPDh needs treatment.  Then again, I also do not accept the abuse anymore... . so that's something at least

[blackorchid]

Thank you Alibaba.  Ive actually realised today that I have more friends here than I realised which has made me feel a lot more confident going forward.  Thank you for your message and for all your help you have been a Godsend  

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