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Author Topic: Closure in the future, by means of a letter?  (Read 320 times)
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« on: July 01, 2013, 10:32:37 AM »

We all know how hard or impossible it is to get closure from BPDs, any of you expect to see it in the future and if so how?

I have a letter that I intent on giving mine when the youngest turns 18 that does a few things, lets her know how I have felt in the past, that I know how she lied, how much she lost by blowing her share of the 401k had she kept it till she is 65, (that one almost makes me smile, wicked yes but not my decision to blow it), and also thanks her for having the children and for the time when she was a wife that took the kids to church and attended every Sunday and put on the whole Christian front. Not that that made her a good person but rather that is what she used to do before she abandoned me and the kids to fly all over the world and throughout the US to shag yet another 'soulmate' in some God forsaken college dorm room and shirked all her maternal instincts(If she ever had any).  I will tell her that I appreciate her pretending for that long that she was that person when in reality it must have been hard. She is now much more her true self. The good wife was just an illusion. And I wish her good luck with her life

So I guess I do not have closure (its been two years) but thats the only form of closure I expect to ever see. And when I say closure, my voicing my hurts and greivences and I will not need to hear a rebutal in any form. As a matter of fact theres nothing she could say that could ever give me closure (well almost nothing)

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