are you separated from h/w/so at this time?

[simplyasiam]

wondering how many here are separated and building skills in hope of rebuilding with the exBPD h/w/so

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[Wanda]

 HEllo,,

I am not separated but was 15 years ago so i could learn the skills and tools i needed to live with my husband to rebuild and work on our relationship.  i had a therapist and so did he actually that is where i learned about BPD . WE stayed apart for about 1 year. and i am still here he is still undiagnoised... . separating has helped

[Scarlet Phoenix]

I was earlier this year. We decided to live apart - a therapeutic separation - to work on ourselves and on the relationship. Now we live apart for more natural reasons, to do with a seasonal project that takes him away from home. It was helpful for us, it gave us some space and time to breath. The hard part was that his abandonment fears kicked in big time

[Wanda]

boy scarlet

  do i understand that... . even though my husband is high functioning he is still BPD... . undiagnoised so i was dealing with abandonment issues big time today due to having to leave for a job orientation for a week.  HE is gone now and he did ok but not without wanting to quit this job. and just not go... . this will be a long week if he thinks to much so i hope he doesn't... . i hope is really busy.

[juju2]

Hi, i am separated, from so dxuntrdBPD, we are in counseling.  am working on myself, have lost a lot of weight, am off my blood pressure meds because dont need, and this is a trying time.

Thank you, j

[LeChuck]

Hi Simply,
I am currently separated from my BPDw and I am slowly starting to come to terms with it and even appreciate the space it is giving me to work on myself. I've had some good advice from other people on the board, but it's only in the last few days now that I've got a bit of head space that I can really take it in.