Blessed0329,
My ex had been doing a lot of indirect things the past several weeks in an attempt to bait me into contacting him
Yeah mine too. Its odd how they do this. She has been turning up in places I normally go and that has really disturbed me. It tugs at my heart strings to see her. And she has been occupying way to much space in my head.
It sounds like you did great in replying in a way that you were comfortable with. And I like your understanding of the exchange, he got his validation, he can got out of the country secure in the knowledge that you are there for him. It was about him, he got what he wanted.
When I have contact with my Ex I try to figure out what I bring to the party, so to speak. To this day, with all the water under the bridge, I still find her intense emotions attractive. I am looking into myself to try understand why that is so true for me.
babyducks