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Dear all,
These past couple of days I've learned that my exBPD is writing professional contacts who are at the place I'm at, warning people about me and forwarding sweet emails that I've written her. I see that she is going out of her way to harm me. And our field is very small.
However, I feel so grateful that she has done so because for the first time, I feel NO desire to write her or run and visit her. I don't know if I even feel love for her right now. Yes I'm worried about my professional situation but that seems like a small price to pay now compared to the mental freedom I'm feeling at the moment.
I guess there is a chance this feeling will go away soon but right now I feel free and happy and it is wonderful.
My boss told me yesterday about her emails, said I should be very careful, that I should erase her name from my cv and make sure she can't get my wife's email. My boss thought she might contact my wife. I personally don't think so but my boss telling me those things was a big wake up call.
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Of course I'm also freaking out as to what she might do next. I had never even imagined she would set out to try to actively hurt me.
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