on the bright side

[blurry]

 I don't know about anyone else, but on a bright note, I can't see myself getting into another bad relationship after this one, in the near future, and by near future, I mean in the next 500 or thousand years. And I don't see myself blaming all women for what this one just put me through either.

I'm not saying I wont get involved with anyone who isnt perfect down the road, but I can't see myself getting this emotionally tied into someone who isn't capable of reciprocating. I think from now on, red flags wont be ignored so casually on my part.

And I also see some things personally, from all this, that I need to work on. I thought I became a better person for this woman, I'm fact I know I did. Which means I'm capable of being a good partner for someone down the road who appreciates it and does the same in return.

I guess if there's a such thing as a silver lining, that's it.

[Findingmysong723]

I like that sentiment! I agree, I think we'll all be stronger and better people for a much better relationship!

[myself]

Hi blurry, I like your post.

It's good to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off, isn't it? Take the lessons in while we're healing. If a BPD relationship is like riding a bike, and we never will forget how it goes, no wonder we call it 'walking' away when we get out of them. Ride's over.

We ARE going to do it better next time. Starting Now. Reciprocation is so important, you're right, a balancing point in all of this. We see ourselves for who we really are, we change what we can for ourselves and our loved ones, and make the best of it.