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Author Topic: What keeps me in NC? How about you?  (Read 463 times)
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« Reply #30 on: November 05, 2013, 11:18:21 PM »

My brain knows what's best and tells my heart no.
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« Reply #31 on: November 06, 2013, 01:49:38 AM »

I don't have contact because there's no point and it would be a waste of my time. She wasn't a healthy partner, isn't somebody I trust, and wouldn't be a good friend. I'm not narcissistic enough to believe that I have anything important to tell her in order to set her straight or anything that she needs to know that I already hadn't told her in the past. And beyond the fact that I don't trust her to tell the truth, there really is nothing I want to hear from her either.
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« Reply #32 on: November 08, 2013, 01:06:26 AM »

Hi Popeye a lot has happened since I last posted. After a week of being interstate my ex fiancé got sick of the waiting around and that I wouldn't agree with him that he said it was best to break things off finally. I had to agree as I wasn't getting through ever! We had a week of no contact never had even a day before so thought that was it and then he text to ask if I was still coming back there for work for a couple of weeks. I replied yes and said I had got a new car and new phone and he was like all you need is a new man fishing I guess. I told him that wasn't on my to do list. Then I got just messages every day how's your day going etc! It was nice to hear from him but at the same time it would set me back. I made the mistake of leaving my Facebook on as engaged cause my heart hadn't moved on and I was entertaining his texts so I guess he was encouraged. When he asked if I'm coming back to my parents after the work assignment I said well yes I had nowhere else to go, he got nasty and accused me of playing games as he thought I would want to stay to work things out together. A couple of months back I said we work things out together but that was before I realised he needs to work on himself and his issues before we even have a chance. I feel guilty now for the false hope but I really did hope we could work things out he would see sense and admit to his actions. Anyway no longer engaged on Facebook so that should make him happy. I just don't know how it has come to this, he is like a stranger to me and why do I still love him. Bit set back after this!
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« Reply #33 on: November 08, 2013, 01:57:02 AM »

I don't have contact because there's no point and it would be a waste of my time; there really is nothing I want to hear from her either.

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