What helps me to detach and heal from this

[Learning2Thrive]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0T3WAbU6tg If I get the urge to break NC... .this one helps me.

Pretty sure I already burned that bridge with the uBPD person that I allowed to rule my life for the better part of 2+ years.  If not, I'll keep lighting it on fire until it *takes*.  I'm DONE running from me.  I'm ready to accept me for who I am and what I like and want.   Why did it take so long to get here?

The person I need to live for in this life now is ME.  I'm worthy of that.

I like being with me right now... .but someday... .when I'm ready... .the person I want to share my life with will enjoy living for themselves too.  That person will be mentally healthy and grounded and have a strong sense of self... .that person will like and love him/herself as much as I like and love myself.  Sharing a love like that -- I imagine-- will be like icing on the cake.  

This is not negotiable.

I'm worth it.  You are worth it too, my friends.  

[Reg]

Hi Learning2Thrive,

Indeed ! Well said 

It may not have the idealisation, it may not feel immediately as the love of your life, but it can most certainly turn out to be the love of your life !

And the difference would and will be that it will be real for two people 

Reg