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Hi guys!
10 months down the line since I broke up with my exBPDgf and I still get sad.The rejection the lack of empathy has stung my every being but over the months things have slowly gotten easier and I am even closer to the point of acceptance. The issue honestly did come down with me. Due to a non validating or supportive childhood it has always been hard to see or savour my achievements I would always undersell my abilities way too much and raise the bar way too high... .
What I have realised is career wise and achievement wise while not perfect (im still on my journey) I am actually doing quite well. I have some fun adventures coming up so why would I want to be with someone who puts me down or doesn't support me or get excited for me. I want to be with someone who feels warm when they see the sparkle in my eye and I want to do the same for my partner as well. I think this is real progress for my feelings and I just wanted to share.
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snappafcw,
This is a great message, thank you for sharing.
I'm so glad that you are looking ahead in your life and finding pleasure in that, instead of sadness.
You have a lot to be proud of, you have been growing and healing, and I hope you'll keep sharing your triumphs with us.
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