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Author Topic: Can't take the Silent Treatment anymore  (Read 11897 times)
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« Reply #30 on: December 03, 2013, 07:45:06 AM »

Let's post a small update  Smiling (click to insert in post)


I've been 'away' from these boards for a few weeks now. I do check the boards, but not as regularly. And I didn't post that much anymore.

It was the best thing to do in my case, and it helped. I've had an easier time letting go (or actually: starting to let go).

I really appreciated this post btw: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=214588.0

Especially since the whole passive-aggressive thing fitted my situation really well.

It is not all that easy though. I find it hard to grasp that she can be all friendly amongst other people. They just don't know her very well, but it still is quite hard. I still sometimes wish that 'mask' would not be a 'mask', but her true self. (well... it is in a way... but I hope you get the idea)

I sometimes have these crazy thoughts as well, doubting if she actually received my last message. A few weeks earlier I would then have a major urge to send something similar again. But not now. Because it makes no difference.

I also had a weird dream in which I saw her waiting for me after work. She was just standing there on my route home, waiting for me to come to her. I didn't. I continued my way home and ignored her. She then left. Silently. And I felt kinda bad in a way... not completely sure if I did the right thing.

The dream(s) and everything didn't make me contact her though. So that's a really good thing. She is and remains the same.
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« Reply #31 on: December 03, 2013, 08:19:50 AM »

Huhhuh

To HURT you and HURT you because they are sadistic and take pleasure out of it. I've seen this sick pleasure on my husband's face while I was very angry on the phone with my lawyer. I couldn't believe it when I saw him how he was enjoying from it. Silent treatment is all about CONTROL and PUNISHMENT and see you get hurt and enjoy it.if you beg them to stop they will do it more to hurt you more.they only stop when they want to.
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