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« Reply #60 on: December 23, 2013, 01:21:56 AM »

I got a message from my ex yesterday saying he misses me very very much and it pains him why he was so removed from my feelings and needs! Does that show a level of self awareness? I know they are just words and believe me I am skeptical but isn't it common of BPD sufferers to just move on and forget once you are gone from their lives. Why is he still wanting me back?

Hi! Loz, not necessarily the push/pull behaviors, testing you, guilt pitty game... .remember?

It's sometime better not to question and see what life has got ahead for us!
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« Reply #61 on: December 23, 2013, 01:56:16 AM »

Do you think he is just appealing to my emotions? I just thought he would rebound to someone else but he doesn't seem to want to let me go! I hate that it tugs at my heart strings as I don't know how much of it is the disorder and how much of it is genuine!
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« Reply #62 on: December 23, 2013, 02:04:08 AM »

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I don't know how much of it is the disorder and how much of it is genuine!

1. It's "genuine" if you take the bait, and then the same old crap will start up.

2. If you don't take the bait, the same old crap will start up much sooner.

That's a decade of experience with the "genuiness" of anything PD related. You may have better luck but I rather doubt it.

Get it in writing, but that won't save you either.
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« Reply #63 on: December 23, 2013, 02:20:36 AM »

MeganK was your ex diagnosed? I guess I wonder if he actually had it sometimes without a professional diagnosis and he has been consistent in blaming himself for awhile now whereas in the past he has riverted back to blaming others. I guess I'm being naive!
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« Reply #64 on: December 23, 2013, 04:31:43 AM »

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