Hi Aussie, you seem to be stuck in the middle of a complex web, where you are not really privy to the full story in someones life and having to trust what you are told. This must be difficult as the truth is you will never know the full truth.
Just to clarify for members are you involved in a physical or romantic way with this person? If so, has this caused any issues between him and his wife as I imagine it would?
Whether there is any involvement or not it must surely provoke a reaction from her.
You will be in the realms of
triangulation to some degree, which is feeding these fantasies
Ultimately you can't control his version of reality, only keep a firm grip of your own
There are many members who have been involved in 3 way relationships such as this. I am sure you will receive some good advice on not being dragged into situations you have no control over