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So I am sort of seeing a new woman. It is someone who I met after the last time my ex dumped me. We definitely had a connection but the break up was too fresh and I was not over my ex.
Fast forward six months and one nasty breakup where my ex has replaced me and cut me off from all contact and this woman and I have decided to have fun and be casual with each other.
I have never been one to do this but I will say it is amazing to spend time with someone I trust and we really respect each other. I enjoy spending time with her and yes, while the ex still comes to mind I am beginning to see I can be with someone else and I am feeling attractive and dare I say, happy again.
As I mentioned in another post, I don't say run out and just hook up with someone for the heck of it, but for me I will say I am getting to know this woman, work on my therapy and just do the casual (non relationship) thing for awhile.
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Im really happy for you angel:)
How did you turn the corner so to speak?
Youve had a really tough time these past months, Im so glad your finding happiness with a healthy woman:)
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I am glad to hear you happy, Pretty Woman.
Enjoy it and take it slowly.
Quote from: Pretty Woman on January 06, 2014, 04:06:40 PM
I am getting to know this woman, work on my therapy and just do the casual (non relationship) thing for awhile.
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Hi EA... heh heh...
Anyway, just wanted to say kudos to you. I'm excited and happy for you.
This from a woman who said she would never love again, who is now casually not one, but two nice men. With way better jobs and resources than my xhwBPD.
Sigh. I should have done this before. Actually tried to date instead of waiting for someone to come to me. I had no idea how men actually like being approached by a woman.
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