i want to break the nc

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I finished my 4 year relationship with my exBPD 5 months ago. His new victim lived in another city the first 4 months. During this time she was Triangulation with both. I learned that she had BPD once the relationship ended and it cost me assimilate all the things that i read about BPD.

I felt special that she contacted me. Now I know it was just because she was feeling lonely.

When she moved with the new victim, she completely forgot me. I also started the NC. I can hardly take in what the "out of sight, out of mind".

I  just took a month of NC but I find it very difficult. I have better days and worse days like today. But I do not recover. Today I would like to send a message of "how are you" but I know it only bring more pain and she can not answer me.

How did you overcome?

Sorry for my english

[afdezm]

I finished my 4 year relationship with my exBPD 5 months ago. His new victim lived in another city the first 4 months. During this time she was Triangulation with both. I learned that she had BPD once the relationship ended and it cost me assimilate all the things that i read about BPD.

I felt special that she contacted me. Now I know it was just because she was feeling lonely.

When she moved with the new victim, she completely forgot me. I also started the NC. I can hardly take in what the "out of sight, out of mind".

I  just took a month of NC but I find it very difficult. I have better days and worse days like today. But I do not recover. Today I would like to send a message of "how are you" but I know it only bring more pain and she can not answer me.

How did you overcome?

Sorry for my english

[Moonie75]

Grit your teeth & bare it my friend.

There's no magic involved, just sheer determination & grit!

[growing_wings]

Moonie is right.

THis is difficult stuff. it requires strength and endurance. i take each day as it comes, and i try to move on with my life, get busy, start new projects, but somedays, i just surrender to the fact that i am down or low, i let it be.

focus on yourself, if you are thinking about her and worried about her, you are living HER life, not yours. get on with your life... . if you message now, you will had your power back to her. keep your power!

stay there... .