3rd person in your relationship

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Tausk, thank you so much for posting the link to the Kapman's Triangle document.  That page has a link to another article I read a while ago and have been SEARCHING this site for to reread.  It's some really great stuff there- when I first read it I was thinking about it constantly.  It really resonated with me, and I have wanted to take another look at how I relate to people and how I can change how I relate to people.  I never want to have another intimate relationship with a person with a personality disorder. 

[starshine]

Tausk, thank you so much for posting the link to the Kapman's Triangle document.  That page has a link to another article I read a while ago and have been SEARCHING this site for to reread.  It's some really great stuff there- when I first read it I was thinking about it constantly.  It really resonated with me, and I have wanted to take another look at how I relate to people and how I can change how I relate to people.  I never want to have another intimate relationship with a person with a personality disorder. 

[ShadowDancer]

Although... . the ex husband IS a douchebag.

[ShadowDancer]

Tausk, thank you so much for posting the link to the Kapman's Triangle document.  That page has a link to another article I read a while ago and have been SEARCHING this site for to reread.  It's some really great stuff there- when I first read it I was thinking about it constantly.  It really resonated with me, and I have wanted to take another look at how I relate to people and how I can change how I relate to people.  I never want to have another intimate relationship with a person with a personality disorder.  

Would you please state the name/title of the other article?

[starshine]

Here is the link to the lengthier document.


(For a fuller discussion of the triangle, see "The Three Faces of Victim" at https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=108384.0.)