This is a difficult period for you grover11. It's difficult when your spouse is texting, leaving notes and begging you to stay. It pulls at the heartstrings.
This article will help you with leaving a borderline partner
https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a110.htm The first stage ":)etachment" is not really applicable at this time, you're leaving in a few days, but the next stage
Ending the Relationship will be helpful.
You are right, leaving it alone is the right thing to do.
Gradually become more boring, talk less, share less feelings and opinions. The goal is almost to bore "The Borderline" to lessen the emotional attachment, at the same time not creating a situation which would make you a target.
- If "The Borderline" panics, you'll receive a shower of phone calls, letters, notes on your car, etc. React to each in the same manner - a boring thanks. If you overreact or give in, you've lost control again.
Stay the course grover11.
We're here for you, hang in there.