No we both wanted to see it " 12 years a slave" just didn't realise it was so brutal. I really loved the movie. I just thought it bizarre that he thought my feelings for him would be swayed by a movie...
I recognise this, pwBPD tend to relate all things to them personally as they are so self-centered, and from this same egocentric point of view comes the terrifying uncertainty that their actions, thoughts, ideas might have a wrong effect on the people around them and that it is their responsability solely.
it must be so hard for them to constantly have these inner fights and doubts
the quotes I constantly hear from my friend are these:
- please remember that I am a good person and ignore my bad persona's
- I'm afraid you will think badly of me now because I did this or this
- I should have acted as a man and protect you- now you probably think I'm a pussy
he constantly projects his own black and white thinking and his incapacity of keeping a consistant image of a person on me, thinking that me too I am not able to remember the good things and that I will base my image of him on whatever bad impression he thinks he left
I tried to explain him so many times that I don't think that way, but he really can't get the picture... .
I wonder if this kind of thinking can be improved by therapy ?
