how do you know if your really moving on?

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My pwBPD dumped me in march when he got back in touch with an old female friend and 'fell for her'.  We stayed 'friends with benefits' which inevitably blew up and we didn't speak for a couple of months. Then he got back in touch after he had been in hospital and we ended up as we were - me staying there and sleeping together.  He made it very clear he didn't love me and it was just friendship and sex.  Last week I told him I had been on a date when he wasn't speaking to me and he flipped out and now totally hates me like never before (don't think he really cares but wanted a way of getting rid of me).

I do feel like this time I am done with it but I suppose my question is how do you know if your really moving on or just passing time hoping for him to get back in contact?  on the one hand i'm planning stuff like moving house and getting on with stuff but then i'm also thinking "great if I move Ill have to contact him to give him all his stuff back"

and how do you know when they are finally done with you?  I know his new friend will inevitably be black at some point but will he need me again or someone else?  

[merlin4926]

My pwBPD dumped me in march when he got back in touch with an old female friend and 'fell for her'.  We stayed 'friends with benefits' which inevitably blew up and we didn't speak for a couple of months. Then he got back in touch after he had been in hospital and we ended up as we were - me staying there and sleeping together.  He made it very clear he didn't love me and it was just friendship and sex.  Last week I told him I had been on a date when he wasn't speaking to me and he flipped out and now totally hates me like never before (don't think he really cares but wanted a way of getting rid of me).

I do feel like this time I am done with it but I suppose my question is how do you know if your really moving on or just passing time hoping for him to get back in contact?  on the one hand i'm planning stuff like moving house and getting on with stuff but then i'm also thinking "great if I move Ill have to contact him to give him all his stuff back"

and how do you know when they are finally done with you?  I know his new friend will inevitably be black at some point but will he need me again or someone else?  

[merlin4926]

just wanted to add - I am aware that whenever I start to get my life back and move on  he bounces back into it - so confusing