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« Reply #30 on: August 21, 2014, 04:55:19 PM »
Haha!  Laugh out loud (click to insert in post) So I'm watching re-runs on TV right now and ran across this funny mathematical equation which charts hotness vs. crazyness. hilarity:

The Hot/Crazy Scale:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN_sSXKbzHk
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« Reply #31 on: August 21, 2014, 05:43:02 PM »
Quote from: Danie14 on August 21, 2014, 11:42:44 AM
Me and math have never gotten along but even I know that 1+1=2 and he would try to convince me that 1+1= 12 on Monday and it'd equal 22 on Tuesday and the then on Wednesday it'd equal purple with pink poke-a-dots.



Yes, Irrational is what is all equals.

Oh my, I so remember those days too!
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« Reply #32 on: August 21, 2014, 08:26:31 PM »
So I had my first Intro to Accounting class tonight... .We discussed briefly the concepts of return on investment. Basically:

Initial Investment + Additional Expenditure = Return

In BPD terms:

Putting your heart on the line, trust, love, emotional connection, etc. + money spent of gifts and food, constantly having your values and boundaries trampled, coping with them cheating = broken heart, diminished mental and emotional state, depression etc... .

My relationship broker is telling me to sell before the BPD bankrupts my soul! Smiling (click to insert in post) Being cool (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #33 on: August 21, 2014, 09:26:50 PM »
Simple.  He = Pain.
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« Reply #34 on: August 22, 2014, 06:20:01 AM »
Quote from: woofhound on August 21, 2014, 08:26:31 PM
My relationship broker is telling me to sell before the BPD bankrupts my soul! Smiling (click to insert in post) Being cool (click to insert in post)

I can relate... . 
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« Reply #35 on: August 23, 2014, 01:24:39 PM »
Folks, beautifully done and incisive.
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« Reply #36 on: August 23, 2014, 01:56:00 PM »
uBPDxw = internal (pain + loneliness)

uBPDxw + any r/s = internal (pain + loneliness)

MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) + uBPDxw = MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) + FOG

MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) - uBPDxw = (-FOG) + (Truth + Happiness)= MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) *  Smiling (click to insert in post) Smiling (click to insert in post) Smiling (click to insert in post)

This math Lesson brought to you by... .MWC Being cool (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #37 on: August 26, 2014, 01:16:34 PM »
Quote from: mywifecrazy on August 23, 2014, 01:56:00 PM
uBPDxw = internal (pain + loneliness)

uBPDxw + any r/s = internal (pain + loneliness)

MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) + uBPDxw = MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) + FOG

MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) - uBPDxw = (-FOG) + (Truth + Happiness)= MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) *  Smiling (click to insert in post) Smiling (click to insert in post) Smiling (click to insert in post)

This math Lesson brought to you by... .MWC Being cool (click to insert in post)

I think this is Brilliant LOL.

Here's my situation:

Moselle = Aron*FOG^2

Aron*FOG^2 + uBPDw = (14yrs + D5, D10, D13)FOG^2

Aron*FOG ^2 - (14yrs + D5, D10, D13)FOG^2 = -uBPDw

FOG^2 (Aron - 14 yrs + D5, D10, D13) = -uBPDw

Aron - 14 yrs + D5, D10, D13 = -uBPDw/FOG^2

Aron + D5, D10, D13 = -uBPDw/ FOG^2 + 14 yrs

Happy family = uBPDw, FOG and 14 years of craziness

OK there's something wrong with my maths, but at least I and my three daughters are on one side of the equation, and my uBPDw is on the other. Perhaps she'll leave us alone to heal.
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« Reply #38 on: August 26, 2014, 09:51:13 PM »
This will make sense if you know my story



MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) + uBPDxw = 18yrs Married + (s14 + s9)

Fathers Day 2013 = uBPDxw + new r/s

Fathers Day 2013 (+) = uBPDxw > 20 miles from MWC Being cool (click to insert in post)

Fathers Day 2013 + 1 yr = uBPDXW < 50 Yards from MWC Being cool (click to insert in post)

MWC Being cool (click to insert in post) > 20 miles from uBPDxw = As soon as F¥cking possible!



MWC... .  Being cool (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #39 on: December 13, 2014, 09:36:57 AM »
Hey Moselle,

I read these again and I did get a chuckle Smiling (click to insert in post) Especially this last one.

Here's an Update:

Jan 2015=MWC  Being cool (click to insert in post) House up for sale=X

?=Date house sells and I can finally move away from uBPDxw

X*?=Soon (By the grace of God)

MWC... .Being cool (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #40 on: December 13, 2014, 12:39:32 PM »
Had a good laugh too Smiling (click to insert in post)

I like this one. A new start  - away from the crazy.

Well you can see that I've had a name change.  This was in response to W hacking into my account. I'm impressed - BPD fam's software has even changed the name in the text of my equations.


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« Reply #41 on: December 13, 2014, 02:05:07 PM »
No need for complicated equations - Harry Nilsson had this all figured out in 1968... .

"One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do

Two can be as bad as one

It's the loneliest number since the number one"
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« Reply #42 on: December 13, 2014, 02:57:03 PM »
Quote from: Hopeless777 on August 15, 2014, 10:19:29 PM
I was going to say that the formula was wrong because love does not equal pain. Then I thought some more and realized that in my 57 years on this earth I've loved two women and both tried to destroy me and the pain is/was awful. So based on my experience to date, you are correct. However, I have to believe that "healthy" love does not equal pain. I just haven't experienced it yet. Someday I hope to.

The post was the mathematics of BPD - not healthy love... .
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« Reply #43 on: December 13, 2014, 04:58:32 PM »
Quote from: Hopeless777 on August 15, 2014, 10:19:29 PM
I was going to say that the formula was wrong because love does not equal pain. Then I thought some more and realized that in my 57 years on this earth I've loved two women and both tried to destroy me and the pain is/was awful. So based on my experience to date, you are correct. However, I have to believe that "healthy" love does not equal pain. I just haven't experienced it yet. Someday I hope to.

Their pain was caused by someone that they loved in their childhood. Love for them has to hurt or it's not love... .
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« Reply #44 on: December 13, 2014, 10:15:40 PM »
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Their pain was caused by someone that they loved in their childhood. Love for them has to hurt or it's not love...

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This is spot on. Their baseline reference is pain.  And it's hardwired into the brain. To recover they have to.re-develop that part of their brain. It's why BPD is so resitant to treatment.
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