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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« Reply #30 on: August 23, 2014, 09:58:49 AM »

That's always a bad idea, even BPD or no BPD.

One of you will most certainly start to want more,

Also, you could potentially be limiting yourself,

slamming the door shut to other opportunities... .

Its tempting. but bite down hard, and resist!

"But bite down hard" Was that a Freudian slip?

(Sorry, I couldn't resist  Smiling (click to insert in post))

On topic: No. It's just a bad idea on so many levels, IMHO.

It's full of them  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #31 on: August 23, 2014, 10:09:39 AM »

You already know the answer to that question, and the fact you're on this website says you aren't and couldn't be emotionally detached.

What is your motivation for asking it?
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« Reply #32 on: August 23, 2014, 10:20:04 AM »

You already know the answer to that question, and the fact you're on this website says you aren't and couldn't be emotionally detached.

What is your motivation for asking it?

In all seriousness I think you are absolutely correct, Heel.  That is why I said no. Having sex with my ex would be VERY damaging to me emotionally, and if I thought anything else I would just be fooling myself.  ... .but I can only speak for myself. 
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« Reply #33 on: August 23, 2014, 10:22:39 AM »

You already know the answer to that question, and the fact you're on this website says you aren't and couldn't be emotionally detached.

What is your motivation for asking it?

I wouldn't say I was emotionally attached. I am on the site because I just found out what BPD is and it has answered a lot of questions for me. It's a bit of a phase I am going through. I have enjoyed hearing other people that have gone through the same thing.

I know rationally it would be the wrong thing to do but sometimes the tiger in us comes out and wants to satisfy a natural urge!

Crazy girl = Crazy sex


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« Reply #34 on: August 23, 2014, 10:52:09 AM »

You already know the answer to that question, and the fact you're on this website says you aren't and couldn't be emotionally detached.

What is your motivation for asking it?

I wouldn't say I was emotionally attached. I am on the site because I just found out what BPD is and it has answered a lot of questions for me. It's a bit of a phase I am going through. I have enjoyed hearing other people that have gone through the same thing.

I know rationally it would be the wrong thing to do but sometimes the tiger in us comes out and wants to satisfy a natural urge!

Crazy girl = Crazy sex

Yeah, OK, I understand the need for recreational sportfcking, which is fine if both people stay emotionally detached and don't make it more than it is.  It never lasts though, since one or both people start to develop "feelings", at which point the pair will part or will turn it into a real relationship, either of which is also fine.

Problem with my ex is I wanted a lot more than disconnected sex and she was incapable of going there, since she isn't an adult, and hearing things like "I can get anything I want with a blowjob" just disgusted and hurt me.  If you do go get sweaty with her, please report back and let us know how it went and how detached you stayed.
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« Reply #35 on: August 23, 2014, 12:11:41 PM »

Just to remind everybody the moderators changed the title of this thread. the original title was "would you bang your ex BPD partner"

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« Reply #36 on: August 23, 2014, 12:57:51 PM »

I think this is a very bad idea because you are continuing a failed relationship.  I've done this with nonBPDs and PDs and it's always caused a lot of misery for everyone.
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