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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: August 27, 2014, 12:11:35 AM »

I'm going to try to upload this photo... .

"The brutal sun shifts the weight of the wild wind, and turbulent water," a peice about my experience with my BPDh... .



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« Reply #1 on: August 27, 2014, 02:51:28 AM »

I'm going to try to upload this photo... .

"The brutal sun shifts the weight of the wild wind, and turbulent water," a peice about my experience with my BPDh... .

www.tinypic.com/r/24uxl7c/8

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: August 27, 2014, 07:09:40 AM »

What a fantastic little project! Well done!
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« Reply #3 on: August 27, 2014, 08:16:00 AM »

Funny. At the peak of my BPD nightmare I made a painting with the same theme and left it in her house before I left. It was a stormy dark blue sea, a black sky and the silhouettes of two people on rafts. One far away in the distance and one close up, covering a corner of the painting.
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« Reply #4 on: August 27, 2014, 08:18:00 AM »

Wow! You made it out of sentences! It's beautiful!

The things we do to heal! 
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« Reply #5 on: August 27, 2014, 08:19:45 AM »

I've seen a lot of art come from a broken heart.

Funny how a lot of it contains people on boats in the water and everything is black...

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« Reply #6 on: August 27, 2014, 10:11:07 AM »

It's beautiful artwork buterfly.

You verbalized your feelings in art. Thanks for sharing. It's very touching.
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« Reply #7 on: August 27, 2014, 02:19:57 PM »

 How wonderful! I'll keep this image in my head. Is it a mosaic? Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #8 on: August 27, 2014, 04:37:19 PM »

Thank you all!

I guess you could call it a mosaic... .But if you click on the URL and look closer you will see they are tiny words/sentences... .And it's pen and ink.

The sky and water is filled with about 50% of the words, directed at me, which frequently came from my husband's mouth over the last 13 yrs.  The ground underwater is some of the deeper abuse.  The "brutal" sun is filled with my mother in laws words (also directed at me) and the canoe and clouds are the things I did over the years to try to make my relationship better. The images are pure symbolism... .

The idea of the canoe comes from my own experience on the lake.  The wind and water when you are on a lake often rocks you, altering your balance, stability, self-perception,  etc. with varying strengths. The strength and safety of the canoe almost always offers a slight sense of safety until you can get back to shore.  I think this is the metaphorical meaning some of you mentioned. At least it was mine.
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« Reply #9 on: August 27, 2014, 04:52:01 PM »

Thank you all!

I guess you could call it a mosaic... .But if you click on the URL and look closer you will see they are tiny words/sentences... .And it's pen and ink.

The sky and water is filled with about 50% of the words, directed at me, which frequently came from my husband's mouth over the last 13 yrs.  The ground underwater is some of the deeper abuse.  The "brutal" sun is filled with my mother in laws words (also directed at me) and the canoe and clouds are the things I did over the years to try to make my relationship better. The images are pure symbolism... .

The idea of the canoe comes from my own experience on the lake.  The wind and water when you are on a lake often rocks you, altering your balance, stability, self-perception,  etc. with varying strengths. The strength and safety of the canoe almost always offers a slight sense of safety until you can get back to shore.  I think this is the metaphorical meaning some of you mentioned. At least it was mine.

Genious! I like it! Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #10 on: August 27, 2014, 05:27:37 PM »

You have brilliant imagination with your art buterfly. How long did it take you to finish this piece? You had to recall what was said to write in your art. 
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« Reply #11 on: August 27, 2014, 06:02:35 PM »

Honestly, I'm not sure if it's done yet. I was thinking it'd be liberating to cut it up and peice it in with some other art I've created since I've left... .

It probably took me 8-10 hours, it's a pretty large peice of work. I also used help from the many journals vie kept over the years to recall things. I am experiencing quite a bit of emotional detachment and hoped this would ground me to the reality of my experiences, also I needed a voice since many of the people in my life do not believe anything I say about what happened (mostly his family). It felt good though, I think it awakened my anger a bit, which is a good thing.
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« Reply #12 on: August 27, 2014, 06:38:05 PM »

I love this picture.

I hope that soon you will begin another picture with opposite words and sentences... .those that validate you.  May be a contrast on a deeper level still... .this picture contains negative words spoken by others to you.  The new painting will perhaps use positive words spoken by you to yourself.

Nurture yourself... .for divinity resides in you.
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